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Pregnancy worries! Fearing a dreaded miscarriage.

Posted by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 4:04 PM
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I am pregnant with Baby #3! I have two sweet DD's one is almost 3, the other is almost 1! Baby #3 was the surprise of surprises!!! But once I found out...I felt instant guilt. 

I feel like all I hear about is friends and great moms having miscarriages...and here I am with another one coming. I don't feel like I deserve to have 3 good pregnancies. Full term, I guess you would say. What makes me so special?


Granted I'm only about 6-7 weeks. I haven't even had my first ultrasound yet. And I had this anxiety with my 2 DD's but never this bad. I don't know. I try not to think about it, and I pray about it A LOT. But all it takes is one little mention of the dreaded MC and I get all worried again. Then I get worried that maybe it's mommy intuition that keeps me thinking about it, and that really worries me. Ugh...i'm just worried. 

did anyone else ever feel this way?

by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 4:04 PM
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ColtsFan1912
by FriendoftheFoot on Jul. 31, 2013 at 4:06 PM

I felt that way with my daughter. I got pregnant & a whole bunch of ladies in my due date group were having miscarriages. I was so afraid I'd lose mine too. She is now 3 years old & healthy. :)

& congrats

Mommy2b2many
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 4:10 PM
((Hugs)) I've been worried like that. I spent my entire first trimester and most of my second worrying that I would have a miscarriage. I'm now in my third and am finally relaxing. Congrats on your pregnancy :)
LilliesValley
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 4:12 PM

I was worried about mc bc I had two of them. I never worried though based on if someone else had a mc or anything like that. Granted I may feel bad for them but mc is not something there is great control over. I think anyone is deserving of full term pregnancies but the world doesn't always work that way.

In my heart I feel like my first mc it just wasn't the right time and with the second the same. I feel like my second mc baby is the one I am carrying now. Like something was just off for whatever reason and either she or dh and I and what was going in our lives or in her prep to get here something just wasn't right. And that's ok. I guess what I am not doing a great job of explaining is that if someone mc and they are meant to have kids physically themselves then that child will come back to them. Also they may get that child another way like adoption. So I guess that's why I was ok and able to handle my mc bc I knew something wasn't right timing wise and that was ok. If it was meant to be that child would come back to me one way or another.

But op there is no "deserving" it just is what it is. You deserve your children just as much as the next person does.

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