My DD17 came to me this morning saying she is pregnant. I felt a mix of emotions but mostly fear and sadness. She lives with her dad half of the time and me half of the time and although I have pretty "strict" rules her dad has basically none. I have been paying for her to be on the pill (only birth control she wanted) for about a year now and she knows how to use condoms. Clearly even though we have had numerous sex talks she wasn't being very careful.
I cried and cried and cried and asked her what her plan was and what she wants to do. She told me that she wanted to move in with me full time and I could be her nanny while she finishes school. I almost laughed in her face but ended up just crying some more. I have a fulltime job that is at the same time as when she at school. She actually wanted me to stop working or change my hours. I told her no. I would let her live there if she helped out, got a job, and paid her way. I would babysit SOMETIMES free of charge for a few hours but anything more than that she would have to pay me or her brother to do it.
I don't know what makes me more sad the fact that she is pregnant or the fact that she is so entitled. I can't help but feeling like a failure. I just am still so shocked. I just....i just don't know