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Restaurant kicked me out because of my son!

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My husband's step mother chose a fancy restaurant for her birthday dinner. We went tonight and it was going well, and my 3 year old son was behaving.

The food took a long time to arrive (around 45 minutes), and my son started to get antsy. When he got his food, he took one bite and then started to cry about wanting to go home. My tactic when he gets into these moods is to ignore him, because he usually stops pretty quickly. He was having a little meltdown for no more than 5 minutes when the restaurant manager came over and said we needed to "remove him" until he was quiet and that his "volume" was "unacceptable" and that other patrons were complaining. 

I was taken aback because yes, he was being a little loud, but he was starting to quiet down, and having a stranger come over and say he needed to leave upset him. We ended up all leaving because it ruined the mood.

Would you call back tomorrow and ask to speak to the owner about this?

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 5, 2013 at 11:14 PM
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mommyof3_34
by Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 11:49 PM
Oh, I also wanted to say that if the child is acting extremely loud, then parents should have enough respect for others to take the child outside for a little while they calm down, but if its just a cry then others need to be understanding.


Quoting mommyof3_34:

I totally disagree with taking my children to those restaurants being that the food they serve is horrible for people's health.



I think it's interesting that adults now a days forget they were once toddlers also and for them to expect a child who is only 1 to know how to behave or to understand that they are in a public place is ridiculous and more childish then the actual children's actions. Kids that age don't know or understand that setting. And parents should not have to feed their children nasty unhealthy food just because some people don't like to hear a child cry. We all have to eat, so adults aren't better then children. Why don't you suggest that the adults leave if their so bothered by the kids? Or better yet, choose an adult only place to eat. I think those are better options.



SMH, ridiculous!




Quoting Lorik1969:

When said toddler is annoying the rest of the guests, it's the manager's job to take care of the situation. Screaming toddlers belong at Chuck E Cheese or McDonalds, not an adult oriented restaurant. Better to have one crazy lady complain than to give discounts to a bunch of ticked off customers.






Quoting mommyof3_34:

Yes I would. I don't understand why some restaurants think its ok to ask people to leave b/c of a toddler. That is so stupid. I would definitely call the owner and write reviews online.



mommyof3_34
by Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 11:54 PM
We can also look at it this way, if the ADULTS were so bothered by a babies cries, then LEAVE! YOU are in fact an adult that can make that decision. There simple enough. Oh wait, I bet the response is they shouldn't have too, right? Because adults come first! SMH


Quoting Amybelle:

Reading Comprehension............

said we needed to "remove him" until he was quiet and that his "volume" was "unacceptable" and that other patrons were complaining. 

Quoting mommyof3_34:

Yes I would. I don't understand why some restaurants think its ok to ask people to leave b/c of a toddler. That is so stupid. I would definitely call the owner and write reviews online.



grey7399
by Gold Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 11:56 PM
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You should have left as soon as he started to get upset.  The restaurant sets the policy.  I pay higher $$$ for a good meal & to relax in a good atmosphere.  If I wanted a screaming crying puking child, I'd stay home & serve my kids living goldfish.

Lorik1969
by on Aug. 23, 2013 at 1:15 AM
You seem to forget that at one time, the people who usef to be tollders weren't taken to nice restaurants until they could behave. If I'm paying good money for a nice meal, I expect it not to be interupted by screaming children. Get a sitter, stay home, or go to a family oriented restaurant. Believe it or not, the rest of the world doesn't think your obnoxious toddler is as adorable as you do.


Quoting mommyof3_34:

I totally disagree with taking my children to those restaurants being that the food they serve is horrible for people's health.



I think it's interesting that adults now a days forget they were once toddlers also and for them to expect a child who is only 1 to know how to behave or to understand that they are in a public place is ridiculous and more childish then the actual children's actions. Kids that age don't know or understand that setting. And parents should not have to feed their children nasty unhealthy food just because some people don't like to hear a child cry. We all have to eat, so adults aren't better then children. Why don't you suggest that the adults leave if their so bothered by the kids? Or better yet, choose an adult only place to eat. I think those are better options.



SMH, ridiculous!




Quoting Lorik1969:

When said toddler is annoying the rest of the guests, it's the manager's job to take care of the situation. Screaming toddlers belong at Chuck E Cheese or McDonalds, not an adult oriented restaurant. Better to have one crazy lady complain than to give discounts to a bunch of ticked off customers.






Quoting mommyof3_34:

Yes I would. I don't understand why some restaurants think its ok to ask people to leave b/c of a toddler. That is so stupid. I would definitely call the owner and write reviews online.



mommyof3_34
by Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 12:35 PM
I agree with going to a family oriented place. I never see any signs at the restaurants we've gone that say its not and people still complain. I've never had trouble with my Holden, but I've heard stories and I think it's really ridiculous to expect children to act a certain way when they are toddlers and don't know better.

My mother and aunts were always taken where ever my grandparents went, b/c back in the days, parents used to always take care of their kids and didn't leave them with anyone. Baby sitters weren't really an option when they had kids. So in my culture, kids went everywhere and being in those situations helped them learn how to behave in public as they grew up.


Quoting Lorik1969:

You seem to forget that at one time, the people who usef to be tollders weren't taken to nice restaurants until they could behave. If I'm paying good money for a nice meal, I expect it not to be interupted by screaming children. Get a sitter, stay home, or go to a family oriented restaurant. Believe it or not, the rest of the world doesn't think your obnoxious toddler is as adorable as you do.




Quoting mommyof3_34:

I totally disagree with taking my children to those restaurants being that the food they serve is horrible for people's health.





I think it's interesting that adults now a days forget they were once toddlers also and for them to expect a child who is only 1 to know how to behave or to understand that they are in a public place is ridiculous and more childish then the actual children's actions. Kids that age don't know or understand that setting. And parents should not have to feed their children nasty unhealthy food just because some people don't like to hear a child cry. We all have to eat, so adults aren't better then children. Why don't you suggest that the adults leave if their so bothered by the kids? Or better yet, choose an adult only place to eat. I think those are better options.





SMH, ridiculous!






Quoting Lorik1969:

When said toddler is annoying the rest of the guests, it's the manager's job to take care of the situation. Screaming toddlers belong at Chuck E Cheese or McDonalds, not an adult oriented restaurant. Better to have one crazy lady complain than to give discounts to a bunch of ticked off customers.








Quoting mommyof3_34:

Yes I would. I don't understand why some restaurants think its ok to ask people to leave b/c of a toddler. That is so stupid. I would definitely call the owner and write reviews online.




mommyof3_34
by Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 12:35 PM
I agree with going to a family oriented place. I never see any signs at the restaurants we've gone that say its not and people still complain. I've never had trouble with my Holden, but I've heard stories and I think it's really ridiculous to expect children to act a certain way when they are toddlers and don't know better.

My mother and aunts were always taken where ever my grandparents went, b/c back in the days, parents used to always take care of their kids and didn't leave them with anyone. Baby sitters weren't really an option when they had kids. So in my culture, kids went everywhere and being in those situations helped them learn how to behave in public as they grew up.


Quoting Lorik1969:

You seem to forget that at one time, the people who usef to be tollders weren't taken to nice restaurants until they could behave. If I'm paying good money for a nice meal, I expect it not to be interupted by screaming children. Get a sitter, stay home, or go to a family oriented restaurant. Believe it or not, the rest of the world doesn't think your obnoxious toddler is as adorable as you do.




Quoting mommyof3_34:

I totally disagree with taking my children to those restaurants being that the food they serve is horrible for people's health.





I think it's interesting that adults now a days forget they were once toddlers also and for them to expect a child who is only 1 to know how to behave or to understand that they are in a public place is ridiculous and more childish then the actual children's actions. Kids that age don't know or understand that setting. And parents should not have to feed their children nasty unhealthy food just because some people don't like to hear a child cry. We all have to eat, so adults aren't better then children. Why don't you suggest that the adults leave if their so bothered by the kids? Or better yet, choose an adult only place to eat. I think those are better options.





SMH, ridiculous!






Quoting Lorik1969:

When said toddler is annoying the rest of the guests, it's the manager's job to take care of the situation. Screaming toddlers belong at Chuck E Cheese or McDonalds, not an adult oriented restaurant. Better to have one crazy lady complain than to give discounts to a bunch of ticked off customers.








Quoting mommyof3_34:

Yes I would. I don't understand why some restaurants think its ok to ask people to leave b/c of a toddler. That is so stupid. I would definitely call the owner and write reviews online.




happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Aug. 23, 2013 at 12:38 PM

"My tactic when he gets into these moods is to ignore him, because he usually stops pretty quickly".

This right here was your problem-not that he was crying.


Lorik1969
by on Aug. 23, 2013 at 1:28 PM
I have no problem wirh well behaved kids. I used to take mine to nice restaurants. I brought snacks and quiet toys and books to keep them occupied. If they started to get antsy or loud, I would take them outside. I don't expect small kids to sit still for a two hour meal. I also don't expect anyone to be patient while my child learns to behave. Other people are paying good money for a nice meal. If they choose a restaurant with an adult atmosphere, they have a right to enjoy their meal in peace. Even 30 years ago, screaming, obnoxious children were not welcome in nice restaurants. The difference seems to be that parents understood that back then.


Quoting mommyof3_34:

I agree with going to a family oriented place. I never see any signs at the restaurants we've gone that say its not and people still complain. I've never had trouble with my Holden, but I've heard stories and I think it's really ridiculous to expect children to act a certain way when they are toddlers and don't know better.



My mother and aunts were always taken where ever my grandparents went, b/c back in the days, parents used to always take care of their kids and didn't leave them with anyone. Baby sitters weren't really an option when they had kids. So in my culture, kids went everywhere and being in those situations helped them learn how to behave in public as they grew up.




Quoting Lorik1969:

You seem to forget that at one time, the people who usef to be tollders weren't taken to nice restaurants until they could behave. If I'm paying good money for a nice meal, I expect it not to be interupted by screaming children. Get a sitter, stay home, or go to a family oriented restaurant. Believe it or not, the rest of the world doesn't think your obnoxious toddler is as adorable as you do.






Quoting mommyof3_34:

I totally disagree with taking my children to those restaurants being that the food they serve is horrible for people's health.







I think it's interesting that adults now a days forget they were once toddlers also and for them to expect a child who is only 1 to know how to behave or to understand that they are in a public place is ridiculous and more childish then the actual children's actions. Kids that age don't know or understand that setting. And parents should not have to feed their children nasty unhealthy food just because some people don't like to hear a child cry. We all have to eat, so adults aren't better then children. Why don't you suggest that the adults leave if their so bothered by the kids? Or better yet, choose an adult only place to eat. I think those are better options.







SMH, ridiculous!








Quoting Lorik1969:

When said toddler is annoying the rest of the guests, it's the manager's job to take care of the situation. Screaming toddlers belong at Chuck E Cheese or McDonalds, not an adult oriented restaurant. Better to have one crazy lady complain than to give discounts to a bunch of ticked off customers.










Quoting mommyof3_34:

Yes I would. I don't understand why some restaurants think its ok to ask people to leave b/c of a toddler. That is so stupid. I would definitely call the owner and write reviews online.





NorseGodessMom
by ChaosLover on Aug. 26, 2013 at 12:59 AM
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 26, 2013 at 1:00 AM
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Quoting NorseGodessMom:

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