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Should I leave him?

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I've known him since I was 13. We were very good friends all througj high school and the first time I got drunk at a party after we graduated, I confessed to him my undying love. Lol we were inseparable. Old couples would tell us in public that we were going to make it, that they could tell by how we looked at each other. There were stars in our eyes. So in love. Things were flawless until I went to bash training. (3 years ago) and he has been slowly withdrawing ever since. We have been married only three months and have sex maybe once a month because he's always too tired. He makes times for his friends but we have only been on two dates since our DD has been here. (She's over ten months old now). He never tells me I'm pretty, he complains about everything I do, and hasn't done anything for valentines day or anniversaries in years. We had been on three breaks previous to DD because I feel like he takes me for granted. We planned to elope 3 months prior to actually going through with it, and he proposed the day before we left to get married while I was changing DDs diaper. He puts no effort or thought into our relationship. Any time I try to talk to him, he acts like I'm a crazy annoying bitch and shuts down. He's the love of my life, but I have done nothing but slowly wither away the past three years.

I don't want my daughter growing up thinking that its okay to beg for a mans scraps of attention.

He's an incredible father, but I feel like he doesn't even notice me.

What would you do?


ETA: I'm in the military and spent this past weekend on a funeral detail putting a close battle buddy in the ground. I had to guard his casket, standing in between my battles dead body, and his grieving mother. I had to pull the flag over his coffin, and pull the dog tags off the feet to hand to his parents after ushering him down the aisle of the church. It was one of the most devastating events of my life. DH did not call, and still has not asked about this past weekend or if I'm okay. I needed him.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 3:56 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:28 AM
Make sure to ad the option of wearing ninja clothes and a Batman mask while riding a unicorn over rainbows in the desert and shooting off machine guns, that way I'll I have something to vote for.


Quoting Anonymous:

Great idea! Ill get on my computer to do one! Lol thanks girl (:




Quoting Anonymous:

What? No cafe mom poll? Clearly your relationship deserves a poll!


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:30 AM
? I would appreciate it if you would direct your boredom to another post. I don't need this shit. If you don't care, then don't respond. It's easy.


Quoting Anonymous:

Make sure to ad the option of wearing ninja clothes and a Batman mask while riding a unicorn over rainbows in the desert and shooting off machine guns, that way I'll I have something to vote for.




Quoting Anonymous:

Great idea! Ill get on my computer to do one! Lol thanks girl (:






Quoting Anonymous:

What? No cafe mom poll? Clearly your relationship deserves a poll!



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:34 AM
Bump.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:42 AM
If life you write your own pricetag. Your sitting there waiting practically begging him to love you. As if he is more valuable.than you. He will never value you if you don't. Not a bash.

My fav movie of all time is The joy luck club. If definitely applies to this. You should check it out if you get the chance.


Quoting Anonymous:

I just thought he was better than that. I swear in my eyes, that man walks on water.




Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

I hate to say this, but is it possible he was seeing someone else while you were away? His behavior is a little suspect and being a retired veteran this is a common thing in military life. Separations are a sad reality that leads many to stray.






Quoting Anonymous:

Basic training. Sorry I'm mobile lol







Yeah he won't even get a sitter so we can go to dinner because he's "too tired".








Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

What's bash training? Have you ever heard of a marriage retreat? You should look into it. Many couples I know swear by them.




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:46 AM
Thank you. Ill look into it (:


Quoting Anonymous:

If life you write your own pricetag. Your sitting there waiting practically begging him to love you. As if he is more valuable.than you. He will never value you if you don't. Not a bash.



My fav movie of all time is The joy luck club. If definitely applies to this. You should check it out if you get the chance.




Quoting Anonymous:

I just thought he was better than that. I swear in my eyes, that man walks on water.






Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

I hate to say this, but is it possible he was seeing someone else while you were away? His behavior is a little suspect and being a retired veteran this is a common thing in military life. Separations are a sad reality that leads many to stray.








Quoting Anonymous:

Basic training. Sorry I'm mobile lol









Yeah he won't even get a sitter so we can go to dinner because he's "too tired".










Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

What's bash training? Have you ever heard of a marriage retreat? You should look into it. Many couples I know swear by them.





DannieLou
by Mockingjay on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:48 AM
You can't stay in a loveless relationship. You won't be happy and it won't be good for your daughter to witness. Divorce, visitation and all that SUCKS, I know that. But, that kind of environment isn't any better.

Quoting Anonymous:

So you don't think I'm overreacting?




Quoting DannieLou:

Personally, if he had no response to that or impending divorce, I'd have to go. You can't force change on someone. But, that's JMO.





Quoting Anonymous:

Girl, I can't tell you how many times. We've been on three breaks because of it. He just doesn't change.








Quoting DannieLou:

Have you told him you miss him? Have you talked about your feelings at all?


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 4:54 AM
Youre welcome. I hope things work out for you.


Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you. Ill look into it (:




Quoting Anonymous:

If life you write your own pricetag. Your sitting there waiting practically begging him to love you. As if he is more valuable.than you. He will never value you if you don't. Not a bash.





My fav movie of all time is The joy luck club. If definitely applies to this. You should check it out if you get the chance.






Quoting Anonymous:

I just thought he was better than that. I swear in my eyes, that man walks on water.








Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

I hate to say this, but is it possible he was seeing someone else while you were away? His behavior is a little suspect and being a retired veteran this is a common thing in military life. Separations are a sad reality that leads many to stray.










Quoting Anonymous:

Basic training. Sorry I'm mobile lol











Yeah he won't even get a sitter so we can go to dinner because he's "too tired".












Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

What's bash training? Have you ever heard of a marriage retreat? You should look into it. Many couples I know swear by them.






Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:39 AM
Bump
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:39 AM
Bump
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:39 AM
Bump
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