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"you're a redneck woman that can't keep her man happy"

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
That's what dh told me this morning.
His alarm went off a 5:30, turned it off and went back to sleep.
At 6:24 I woke up and woke him up, he said "why can't I ever get up when my alarm goes off?" So I said "well, you turn it off and go back to sleep".
I told him that he had clean clothes folded on the table (I finished up that load of laundry last night after everyone was asleep so I left it on the table to put away this morning).
He goes to get his clothes, comes back and goes into the bathroom for a shower. He saw his towel on the floor and gets mad, accusing me of putting it there. I explained that I haven't showered since Sunday and I didn't touch his towel, I offer him a clean one...
Then he starts telling me I can't keep a man happy, I'm just like my mom, I'm a redneck woman, all kinds of stuff.
All this time I'm laying in bed trying not to cry, I'm 8 months pregnant and not feeling well anyways. He starts saying "you wouldn't even care if I walked out the door and never came back".
He went into the living room and came back with more insults.
Finally I told him I'm tired of it, Ds is trying to sleep and so am I. I told him he needs to quit and just go to work. He got mad and left the room, came right back in and said he doesn't have any cigarettes and we don't have the money to get any so he's just being mean and picking on me for no reason.
I said "well next time pick on someone your own size". He got mad and took his ring off and tried to play the victim. I told him he just needs to leave.
He left and came back, saying he forgot something.
He started crying saying he was sorry. I told him to give me Ds's carseat and leave.
Well, he never brought the carseat up but at least he left.

I'm tired of this! I hate being treated like c rap! He had been doing really well but the past week had been like this. I'm so tired of it :(
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 8:24 AM
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niki_hubbard
by Silver Member on Aug. 6, 2013 at 8:55 AM

Your dh sounds like mine. He blows up over the stupidest things, then when I get mad acts like him blowing up was my fault, and he has a right to be mad at me. And, I have noticed, he will also pull they crying bit. With my dh, it is a manipulation tactic. It aways worked on his mom, so he tries it with me. Yeah, just annoys the hell out of me, because I know he is not really sad. He just wants his way..

Anyways, he went to the doctor, and was diagnosed with anxiety. He is now medicated. He is much easier to deal with when he isn't screaming and crying. We are much happier, and his road rage has even improved, lol.  Maybe ask him to make an apt?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:05 AM
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I'm not too lazy to shower, I just didn't yesterday since I got one Sunday night. It's not like I was out rolling in mud yesterday, I didn't go anywhere or do anything to get dirty so I will shower today.


Quoting Anonymous:

you sound like a pair of ignorant rednecks

can't afford to buy a pack of cigarettes, you're too lazy to shower, you're 8 months pregnant and you think his attitude is your only problem? Sweeeeet..


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:06 AM
He didn't cry because he felt bad. He cried because he is afraid I'm going to leave.


Quoting lilyrose2011:

Everyone has off days. (Somtimes weeks) The fact thr he felt bad and cryied to you should mean somthing. For better or for worse right? Maybe he is starting to get a lil stressed that your getting so close to your due date.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:06 AM

Why are you having a child if you can't afford the family you have now?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:08 AM
We are having financial problems because he doesn't pay the bills first. He spends money like it's water.


Quoting eblstanford03:

Is there something more to his attitude; like a reason to why he is behaving this way? Are y'all having any issues, marital, financial, etc? I know my husband can be a bit "snippy" when he gets very stressed.

Not saying any of that is an excuse, but there could be an underlying reason.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:09 AM
Um, we don't even live in a trailer.


Quoting Anonymous:

got me wondering what kinda trailer they live in



Quoting Anonymous:

you sound like a pair of ignorant rednecks

can't afford to buy a pack of cigarettes, you're too lazy to shower, you're 8 months pregnant and you think his attitude is your only problem? Sweeeeet..





Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:09 AM

Has he always been mentally abusive, or is it tied to him not having cigarettes?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:10 AM
I don't allow it in the house, car or around the kids, either.


Quoting Anonymous:

I have a problem with the cigarettes in the first place and my husband smokes. I hate it and don't allow it in our house, car or around me or the kids. Smoking is trashy.




Quoting Anonymous:

you sound like a pair of ignorant rednecks

can't afford to buy a pack of cigarettes, you're too lazy to shower, you're 8 months pregnant and you think his attitude is your only problem? Sweeeeet..



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:10 AM

nice...so you're with a BOY? not a man....tell us, what's stopping you from leaving?


Quoting Anonymous:

We are having financial problems because he doesn't pay the bills first. He spends money like it's water.


Quoting eblstanford03:

Is there something more to his attitude; like a reason to why he is behaving this way? Are y'all having any issues, marital, financial, etc? I know my husband can be a bit "snippy" when he gets very stressed.

Not saying any of that is an excuse, but there could be an underlying reason.




Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2013 at 9:11 AM

 


Quoting Anonymous:

you sound like a pair of ignorant rednecks

can't afford to buy a pack of cigarettes, you're too lazy to shower, you're 8 months pregnant and you think his attitude is your only problem? Sweeeeet..


 

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