People undergoing extensive fertility treatments bug me.
Here is my rant.
I think the medical community labels couples as being infertile way too quickly. Back in the day it wasn't uncommon for it to take a few years for a woman to become pregnant. We have become such a demanding society that people want everything NOW and the medical community is happy to oblige and charge billions.
I think many (not all) people who undergo years of IVF hurt themselves and their marriages. infertile women can be whackos...especially to people who get pregnant naturally. Sex becomes mechanical.
Why waste all your money on IVF when you could adopt? I know some insurance covers IVF but many people spend a lot out of pocket. Not that everyone should or can adopt, but 5+ years of clomid/IUI/IVF is bazaar to me.
Also, I am sad about the unused/discarded embryos.
EDIT: Cafe mom should require a reading comprehension test before letting people on this site. I'm not berating anyone who undergoes fertility treatments. I think that's a normal next step if you can't get pregnant. I'm critisizing the medical community for the promises they make and I'm sad for people who undergo extensive prolonged fertility treatments... clomid, IUI, IVF and whatever else the doctors have to offer for YEARS on end. There are a lot of people left with no baby and money lost out of pocket. If that is not your situation then guess what? I'm not talking about you. If you're going to post a success story about your IVF then great. It worked! Congratulations. Again...not talking to you.
My personal opinion (what I would do for my own body) is to forgo IVF. That doesn't mean I think you should forgo it but do conside the facts.
Edit (one more time) Yes - we did have fertility problems. I have miscarried 4 times an then adopted a beautiful baby girl. We have no other children at this time. I never underwent any fertility treatments other than an HSG to check the shape of my uterus and some progesterone during pregnancy. I am 45 and I consider myself too old to TTC now so we are done.
Edit Again - some books referenced on this thread
The Business of Baby: What Doctors Don't Tell You, What Corporations Try to Sell You, and How to Put Your Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Baby Before Their Bottom Line
Everything's Conceivable was a book referenced in this thread. The author is Liz Munday and it's on Amazon and Google Books.
Random House LLC, Apr 24, 2007 - Social Science - 406 pages