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People undergoing extensive fertility treatments bug me.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

 Here is my rant.


I think the medical community labels couples as being infertile way too quickly. Back in the day it wasn't uncommon for it to take a few years for a woman to become pregnant. We have become such a demanding society that people want everything NOW and the medical community is happy to oblige and charge billions.

I think many (not all) people who undergo years of IVF hurt themselves and their marriages. infertile women can be whackos...especially to people who get pregnant naturally. Sex becomes mechanical.

Why waste all your money on IVF when you could adopt? I know some insurance covers IVF but many people spend a lot out of pocket. Not that everyone should or can adopt, but 5+ years of clomid/IUI/IVF is bazaar to me.

Also, I am sad about the unused/discarded embryos.

EDIT:  Cafe mom should require a reading comprehension test before letting people on this site.   I'm not berating anyone who undergoes fertility treatments.  I think that's a normal next step if you can't get pregnant. I'm critisizing the medical community for the promises they make and I'm sad for people who undergo extensive prolonged fertility treatments... clomid, IUI, IVF and whatever else the doctors have to offer for YEARS on end.  There are a lot of people left with no baby and money lost out of pocket.  If that is not your situation then guess what?  I'm not talking about you. If you're going to post a success story about your IVF then great.  It worked!  Congratulations.  Again...not talking to you. 

My personal opinion (what I would do for my own body) is to forgo IVF.  That doesn't mean I think you should forgo it but do conside the facts.

Edit (one more time)  Yes - we did have fertility problems.  I have miscarried 4 times an then adopted a beautiful baby girl.  We have no other children at this time.  I never underwent any fertility treatments other than an HSG to check the shape of my uterus and some progesterone during pregnancy.  I am 45 and I consider myself too old to TTC now so we are done.

Edit Again - some books referenced on this thread

The Business of Baby: What Doctors Don't Tell You, What Corporations Try to Sell You, and How to Put Your Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Baby Before Their Bottom Line

Another book

Everything's Conceivable was a book referenced in this thread.   The author is Liz Munday and it's on Amazon and Google Books.

Random House LLCApr 24, 2007 - Social Science - 406 pages

Award-winning journalist Liza Mundy captures the human narratives, as well as the science, behind the controversial, multibillion-dollar fertility industry, and examines how this huge social experiment is transforming our most basic relationships and even our destiny as a species.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 8, 2013 at 10:55 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 14, 2013 at 3:53 PM
I think that is great! God tells us when we are done having babies. it's called menopause. I am all for women having babies later in life. I

Quoting Anonymous:

In response to this Edit that you posted:


 I am 45 and I consider myself too old to TTC now so we are done.


I'm not sure how you feel about it, but I got pregnant at age 46 and gave birth to my son when I was 47. No health problems for either of us, no problems during the delivery (vaginal delivery), and the doctor said she had many patients a lot younger than I who had more problems. My son is going into first grade now, very intelligent, reads on about a fourth grade level, very curious, energetic, and healthy. Never say never!  ;-)  I wasn't trying to get pregnant, but I wasn't not trying, either.

Kathy489
by on Aug. 14, 2013 at 7:37 PM

 

Let it be up to Him, then. I thought I was past the time that pregnancy would happen, but He had other plans.  :-)    You never know!

Quoting Anonymous:

I think that is great! God tells us when we are done having babies. it's called menopause. I am all for women having babies later in life. I

Quoting Anonymous:

In response to this Edit that you posted:


 I am 45 and I consider myself too old to TTC now so we are done.


I'm not sure how you feel about it, but I got pregnant at age 46 and gave birth to my son when I was 47. No health problems for either of us, no problems during the delivery (vaginal delivery), and the doctor said she had many patients a lot younger than I who had more problems. My son is going into first grade now, very intelligent, reads on about a fourth grade level, very curious, energetic, and healthy. Never say never!  ;-)  I wasn't trying to get pregnant, but I wasn't not trying, either.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 18, 2013 at 3:14 PM
"Cafe mom should require a reading comprehension test before letting people on this site". Yes, they should, as well as before someone adopts and then judges others instead of just stating an opinion (as in you, b/c among other errors in your post, the word you're looking for is bizarre, not bazaar...)
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2013 at 10:39 PM

....still judging and winning...!

Quoting Anonymous:

"Cafe mom should require a reading comprehension test before letting people on this site". Yes, they should, as well as before someone adopts and then judges others instead of just stating an opinion (as in you, b/c among other errors in your post, the word you're looking for is bizarre, not bazaar...)


Brn2BAMom
by Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:24 AM
As an adoptive parent that yes spent. Lot of money adopting, when people use the expense as the reason they don't adoption and when our family members mentioned the expense to us I just told them you have no problem buying and financing a $30-$50k car for 5 years if I want to do that to have a child and a family then what's the difference? That car will end up in the junk yard one day and ill still have a family. A family is forever. A car is for a finite amount of time. Just one other way to think about the expense. And now I'm sure a Tom of you will say you'd never buy a car for that much and blah blah blah and I understand that, but some ppl do and don't think twice about it but will talk themselves out of a child for the same financial price and that's stupid (to me)
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