While I have to work my butt off for extra money, we are not giving them a dime
Me and DH have been having a harder time then usual financially. This is almost entirely because our insurance premiums have almost doubled. We used to have about $400 a month after everything was paid for (bills, groceries and anything else we needed) now we save almost nothing. We have a 7 year old, an almost 5 year old, a 3 year old and I am pregnant again.
Because of this, I have decided to babysit from home. The only even close to reasonable offer I got was $100 a week for a 2 year old, 5 days a week, all day. I also have to provide breakfast, lunch and 2 snacks. It works out to be not a lot of money, especially for this very active child but it is money and we need extra money. I am 15 weeks pregnant and have actually lost a few lbs because my morning sickness has been so bad. It is much better with rest, I have almost no problems during the weekend but during the week, it is bad because I don't get a chance to rest. But like I said, my famiy needs the money so I am doing what I have to. We plan on using the money I make ( I have been doing this for 5 weeks already and will be doing it for another 6, until the child's grandmother moves in town) to add to our savings and to buy the few baby things that we need (a double stroller and a car seat).
Now, my in laws are also having a harder time financially. They have talked to all 3 of their kids, asking if each child will give them a monthly amount of money to keep them going. They said between the 3 of them, they need another $400 a month to keep going. SIL makes a good amount of money and she agreed to give $200 a month, BIL doesn't have a lot of money. He said he would help where he can but he can't commit to anything monthly. When DH told me about this, he actually said "how much do you think we can give them". WHAT? I am sick all the time but still taking care of our kids, the house, him AND an extra kid just for a little bit of extra money that we "need" but you think we are in the position to give them anything? I also reminded him that I only have this job for another 6 weeks or so. This feels like a slap in my face. He sees how hard this is on me, he knows I am doing this to help our family yet he is willing to give money away? He then had the nerve to call me selfish.
He was really mad at my reaction but when he woke up this morning, he did say that he thought I was right about not being able to give them money. I am still hurt though at the way he acted last night.