If this has never happened to you then Thank God but.. My dh just made me feel like crap. A little background. I have worked and supported myself since College. I have always been independent. Before we got married we sat down and we both agreed when we had a child I would stay home to nurture and teach her until she went to school. He knows giving up my independence is a sacrafice for me but the payoff is way more important for us(not judging at all if you have to work I commend you for juggling it all). Dh makes more than enough money to support me being a sahm. That being said we only have one Dd. i have never had a babysitter for her in her 3 years and the only breaks I ever get are 2 hours three times a month when I just go for a drive to clear my head Dh watches her. So yesterday he calls me and says do you need a break? You can go out get something to eat catch a movie go to a bookstore get some coffee make a day of it. Omg that sounded like heaven! So today I was like I have it all planned Im going do this and that and eat at this place. He says to me "with what money?" I got so turned off I said forget it and started cleaning and crying. He said He was kidding but it just really hit me like a ton of bricks! He is a control freak. He gives me money freely but I have no access to all the money. I didnt know he would be like this and now Im stuck!