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There needs to be something done about adoptive parents breaking an open adoption agreement.

Anonymous
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The only way it should be able to get changed is by all parties agreeing to it or court order. If the adoptive parents break the agreement they should be held in contempt of court and face penalties.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:04 PM
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xixCandyxix
by Platinum Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:05 PM
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Unfortunately, that's not the way the laws work. The adopting couple can close it at any time. Not saying I agree with it, but the laws don't work the way you think they do. Yes, I think they should be enforced to stick to the original agreement though.

Corina1987
by Bronze Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:07 PM
I didn't know adoptive parents could do that.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:08 PM
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I dont know about penalities. But i do agree that they should write an agreement up and take it to court. I think a lot more people would be open to going through with adoption if this was how it was.

silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:08 PM
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i think there should be no open adoption

once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:09 PM

 I know the law works that way but something should be done about it.


Quoting xixCandyxix:

Unfortunately, that's not the way the laws work. The adopting couple can close it at any time. Not saying I agree with it, but the laws don't work the way you think they do. Yes, I think they should be enforced to stick to the original agreement though.


 

Wicked.Jester
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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I agree.  Adoptive parents are not babysitters.

Quoting silverdawn99:

i think there should be no open adoption

once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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I'm currently doing adoption and i as the bm would be extremely pissed if they didn't follow the open adoption that i choose
briansmommy2010
by Ruby Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:09 PM
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Absolutely they can. An open adoption agreement does not hold up in court.

As the laws are now, once bio parents sign over their rights, that's it, and the adoptive parents can change the terms.

In some ways I would like to see the laws changed, but at the same time, speaking from personal experience, some bio parents can be toxic and SHOULD have all contact cut off.


Quoting Corina1987:

I didn't know adoptive parents could do that.
Josie_P
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:10 PM
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I actually agree.

Quoting silverdawn99:

i think there should be no open adoption

once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours

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MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:10 PM

 What type of penalties?

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