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There needs to be something done about adoptive parents breaking an open adoption agreement.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

The only way it should be able to get changed is by all parties agreeing to it or court order. If the adoptive parents break the agreement they should be held in contempt of court and face penalties.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:04 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:10 PM
Not really. They know what is best for their child.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:10 PM
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I disagree with both of you


Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I agree.  Adoptive parents are not babysitters.

Quoting silverdawn99:

i think there should be no open adoption

once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours



carterscutie85
by Queen Bee on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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I agree.

If they say they will do an open adoption, an agreement should be worked out beforehand. It's hard enough to give your baby up, it's even harder to never see them again or even see their pictures again.

It really shouldn't even come down to needing a court order just to force someone to keep their word, but sadly that's the world we live in.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:11 PM
I believe and from experience open adoptions are much better for the kids.
Quoting silverdawn99:

i think there should be no open adoption

once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours


anotherhalf
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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I think adoptive parents should be able to go back on the agreement especially if they believe it is no longer in the best interest of THEIR child. No one should have the right to see my child against my wishes.
Wicked.Jester
by on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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You think adoptive parents are babysitters?

Quoting Anonymous:

I disagree with both of you


Quoting Wicked.Jester:

I agree.  Adoptive parents are not babysitters.

Quoting silverdawn99:

i think there should be no open adoption

once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours




briansmommy2010
by Ruby Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:11 PM
And what about seriously toxic bio parents. My bio mom is severely mentally unstable, and I wish my adoptive parents had cut contact with her.

Quoting Anonymous:

 I know the law works that way but something should be done about it.




Quoting xixCandyxix:


Unfortunately, that's not the way the laws work. The adopting couple can close it at any time. Not saying I agree with it, but the laws don't work the way you think they do. Yes, I think they should be enforced to stick to the original agreement though.




 

MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:12 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm currently doing adoption and i as the bm would be extremely pissed if they didn't follow the open adoption that i choose

 You have to be prepared for that reality because it does happen.

silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:12 PM

they do this and alot more couples would refuse to do an open adoption or even stop adopting from the united states completly

ever wonder why alot of couples go international to adopt?

Quoting Anonymous:

The only way it should be able to get changed is by all parties agreeing to it or court order. If the adoptive parents break the agreement they should be held in contempt of court and face penalties.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 19, 2013 at 5:13 PM
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Lmao, no.
I have read cases where adoptive parents go in with the best of intentions and for various reasons 1) the bio mom encroaching on the family 2) the safety of the child comes into question 3) the relationship with bio mom having a negative impact on the child the need to close the adoption.
That is their child at that point and they are well within their rights to do what is best without the permission of a third party.
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