There needs to be something done about adoptive parents breaking an open adoption agreement.
why? Just because she wants to?
what it comes down to is what the adoptive parents feel is best for the child.
Period.
Quoting Anonymous:
No, i think they are parents. but if bm choose to do an open adoption. she should be allowed to remain in contact with the child.
Quoting Wicked.Jester:You think adoptive parents are babysitters?
Quoting Anonymous:
I disagree with both of you
Quoting Wicked.Jester:I agree. Adoptive parents are not babysitters.
Quoting silverdawn99:i think there should be no open adoption
once you sign that dotted line its their child not yours
I agree with some of what is being said. Like adoptive parents are not babysitters and the child does not belong to the birth parent after the adoption.
However these adoptive parents know exactly what they are getting into when the birth parents say they want it open. How open should be agreed by both parties. Once agreed it should be that way until taken to court.
*general you.
well, if the mother wanted to be able to see her child, she should have kept it or adopted it to a member of her family, once someone else takes over the parental rights of that child, its their child, they shouldnt have to deal with the bio parents trying to see the kid, it is not their kid anymore, end of story.
Quoting MrsDavidB25:
Quoting Anonymous:
I'm currently doing adoption and i as the bm would be extremely pissed if they didn't follow the open adoption that i choose
You have to be prepared for that reality because it does happen.
I am the birth mother in what was an open adoption. I told them several years ago that I thought it would be best to go semi open, and allow their son to choose if he wanted to continue contact with me. I never wanted him to worry about staying in contact just for the sake of my feelings. I mean, he is fifteen now, and very busy. But he has chosen to stay in contact, and he knows (from his parents and I), that HE is in control of how much contact there is.
I know I am in the minority, because I have been at peace with my choice to place him from the moment I made that choice. I know he is where he was meant to be, and the only real role I play in his life is as the vessel that brought him to his family. But I just wanted to put that out there. Not all adoptive parents feel the need to continue to cling.
Want to be a part of your child's life? Figure out a way to MAKE IT WORK instead of signing over your rights.
Quoting Anonymous:Read the whole OP. I said unless court ordered. That mean you go to court and have them terminate the agreement.
Quoting briansmommy2010:
And what about seriously toxic bio parents. My bio mom is severely mentally unstable, and I wish my adoptive parents had cut contact with her.
Quoting Anonymous:
I know the law works that way but something should be done about it.
Quoting xixCandyxix:
Unfortunately, that's not the way the laws work. The adopting couple can close it at any time. Not saying I agree with it, but the laws don't work the way you think they do. Yes, I think they should be enforced to stick to the original agreement though.
Its one of the major reasons why I did. I had no interest in an open adoption, and they were even more popular when I adopted than they are now.
People are finally starting to see that an open adoption is NOT always best for the child. Probably isn't best in most cases.
Quoting Anonymous:You shouldn't have to go to court to make a decision about what is in the best interest of your child. This is why people go overseas to adopt.
Quoting Anonymous:
Read the whole OP. I said unless court ordered. That mean you go to court and have them terminate the agreement.
Quoting briansmommy2010:
And what about seriously toxic bio parents. My bio mom is severely mentally unstable, and I wish my adoptive parents had cut contact with her.
Quoting Anonymous:
I know the law works that way but something should be done about it.
Quoting xixCandyxix:
Unfortunately, that's not the way the laws work. The adopting couple can close it at any time. Not saying I agree with it, but the laws don't work the way you think they do. Yes, I think they should be enforced to stick to the original agreement though.
Everybody does NOT want to be a cat!
You shouldn't have to go to court to make a decision about what is in the best interest of your child. This is why people go overseas to adopt.