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Posted by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:33 AM
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Mom's Extreme Home Birth Plan Is Both Crazy & Dangerous

by Mary Fischer

newborn footUhhhhh, just when I thought I'd most definitely heard it all -- I read about a woman who had a YouTube assisted birth to welcome her baby into the world. Now my mind is officially blown.

Yes, a YouTube assisted birth. I know, I know -- you're confused as hell. Let me explain.

The 31-year-old mother from Washington state was apparently set on having a home birth, but before it was time for her to deliver, her midwife refused to assist her because her pregnancy was considered high-risk.

You see, she tested positive for methamphetamine and heroin, which is why the midwife knew the baby needed to be born in a hospital. When the woman refused to go, the midwife alerted authorities -- who then learned that she'd taken matters into her own hands as far as giving birth goes.

She wound up delivering the baby at home in her bathtub with the help of a friend -- who learned how to cut the umbilical cord by watching a YouTube video.

And while the baby has since been taken to a hospital and is in stable condition, her mother could now face neglect charges -- something that really shouldn't surprise anyone.

I know this woman tested positive for drugs and all -- but even so, can you believe she allowed a friend with no medical training to cut her baby's umbilical cord? And can you believe she somehow thought watching a YouTube video made her qualified to do so?

Sure, technology is kind of taking over in the day and age we live in. But I don't care how explicit or detailed something appears to be on YouTube -- a video simply can't take the place of doctors, nurses, or other medically trained professionals who are fully qualified to bring a baby into the world safely.

And even if you did read all kinds of books on giving birth in addition to studying videos like crazy, every delivery is different and you can never predict what kind of complications (if any) are going to arise at any moment during the birth. 

Again, you have to wonder about this mother's state-of-mind considering the drug thing -- but for the sake of future babies everywhere, let's hope this is the first and last time we ever hear the term "YouTube assisted birth."

Do you think videos can prepare you for a birth at all?

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Sister_Someone
by Rachel on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:37 AM

I don't think so, but I would never consider a homebirth to begin with.

alexsmomaubrys2
by Ruby Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:40 AM
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There is so much that is wrong with that story. The midwife was right in alerting the authorities. Homebirths are great for those that can safely have them, not for drug addicts who let unqualified friends deliver their high risk babies. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:52 AM

When i was a nursing student I had to do clinicals in OB and I seen first hand vaginal births and c-sections. NEither one of them was as bad as I thought they would be. I have c-sections and even after being in the surgery room watching, i am not scared to  have another.

MomTo3NMW
by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:57 AM
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I think the worst part about this is that she's a druggie. This wasn't a home birth, this was trying not to get in trouble. She should have the baby taken permanently. 

As for videos preparing for birth, no I don't believe so. Birth is unlike any other experience you'll ever go through. Nothing can prepare you for the real thing.

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anotherandree
by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 11:09 AM

I think that such videos being present on the internet are wonderful IN THE CASE OF AN EMERGENCY.  I had heard of people using books in the past and had thought "that would be difficult finding your place if you look away."  However, this was NOT an emergency.  She was told with plenty of time by her midwife that she was high-risk and that she needed to deliver in a hospital.  Instead she CHOOSE to ignore the medical advice.

TranquilMind
by Ruby Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 11:10 AM

 Well, you never know what you can learn on Youtube!

I sure wouldn't do it. 

NOTHING prepares you for birth.  NOTHING.  You just have to experience it.

kcangel63
by Ruby Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 11:14 AM
I've watched many birth videos. I think it can help, but you need to be knowledgable as well. I wouldn't have been comfortable with my 3 unassisted births if I hadn't studied for a few years before.

I'm not sure what to think about this story. The woman lost her other kids, not to cps, but their father. There didn't seem to be much evidence of drug possession/use? They busted down her door because she was past her EDD. Too much wrong and unanswered.
bebcarroll
by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 11:18 AM

I think in an emergency situation, you know like stuck 45 minutes away from a hospital in 5 feet of snow with a baby coming now!, with the phones out, YouTube or other internet videos would be a valuable resource, or even in addition to 911.  But, to do because you don't want to get caught with a drug addicted baby? Bad Choice, very bad choice.

I have no problem with home births for low risk moms and babies and were I not a high risk mom, I would have delivered all of my kids in the living room.  But, I am and I know it.  So, I go to my Ob and the Maternal Fetal Health specialist and deliver my kids at the hospital.  Where they can do things like lower my blood pressure and stop a hemorrhage and give blood transfusions. (all of which have happened.)

And, if you have never attendded a birth and you are curious and not squeemish?  Watch a couple so you understnad what is going on.

la_bella_vita
by Bella on Aug. 20, 2013 at 11:24 AM

 Wow, that's quite a story.

I'm sure videos can help. I watched a few to prepare for my first.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 20, 2013 at 1:11 PM

Meh- should we be saving everyone? Sometimes, I think we should let nature take it's course with the ones who should be getting Darwin awards.... instead of saving the extreme stupid to keep repeating the stupid over and over

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