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Our society penalizes the wrong people constantly and no one seems to notice the trend.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

1. People making a lifestyle out of PA sit around watching day time TV and have their needs met for them, often while receive money under the table for something. Meanwhile, hard working tax payers are clipping coupons, sacrificing and seeing half their pay checks gone to taxes, insurance (which keeps going up thanks to those who don't pay for their medical care). And people who are financially well off are villainized for making good decisions that paid off. (How dare they work hard and make good decisions?!)

2. People who use proper grammar are made fun of for sounding uppity.

3. People who always look nice are accused of being superficial.

4. People who are extremely organized are accused of being OCD or anal.

5. Parents who put the time and effort into creating structure and consistency for their kids are called "rigid".

6. People with clean, organized, attractive homes are also accused of being "rigid" or not "living" in their homes.

7. People who set high standards are accused of being snobby. Mediocrity and average is acceptable, but nothing above.

This is a trend I've noticed. Just thought I'd point it out.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 21, 2013 at 2:04 PM
Replies (31-40):
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 21, 2013 at 2:50 PM

People also assume # 1 is the case all the time, when in reality...it's not.

kailu1835
by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 2:51 PM
And people who are bullied are "weak" until they've had enough and fight back, at which point they are suspended for violent behavior.
IamMex11
by JorgematoTM on Aug. 21, 2013 at 2:55 PM
bravo Bravo encore encore
kailu1835
by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 2:59 PM
Uh no, it is definitely many. I grew up around career pa abusers.

Quoting Anonymous:

Those that take advantage are not that many.......js

Quoting Mommysmadae:

She said those that take advantage not all.
Quoting Anonymous:

we get it, your perfect, not a snob or rigid at all. No problem, you need to understand that not everyone that collects some for of PA is a moocher, lazy, unmotivated or taking advantage,


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 21, 2013 at 3:06 PM

I'm sure there are areas where it is more prevelant, but overall most people on PA are NOT abusing it. It's not all that easy to get and stay on. All the "welfare momma" stories are just stories made to deamonize the poor.

Quoting kailu1835:

Uh no, it is definitely many. I grew up around career pa abusers.

Quoting Anonymous:

Those that take advantage are not that many.......js

Quoting Mommysmadae:

She said those that take advantage not all.
Quoting Anonymous:

we get it, your perfect, not a snob or rigid at all. No problem, you need to understand that not everyone that collects some for of PA is a moocher, lazy, unmotivated or taking advantage,



Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 3:42 PM


It's OK to think the boxes are a bit much, but I don't get the vibe you are judging the Moms who do them, kwim?  The other post she made it seem like Moms who do them are ONLY doing it for selfish reasons, like putting up a front or trying to cover their imperfections.  I do bento boxes WITH my children, because I love cooking/food prep and they like art.  To think I'm just slapped with an "overbearing lable" by some people is just silly.

I guess that goes for a lot of topics on MC, though.  This group judges for EVERYTHING.  Hug your boy?  He's going to be gay!  Give your DD a doll?  You are forcing gender stereotypes!  Drink soda?  You're fat, you're making your kids fat, and your grandkids will be fat, and you all deserve to DIE for being fat!  It goes to such a crazy extreme so fast.  Called the cops because the neighbor was beating his wife?  Should have minded your own business, she won't leave him anyways!  When she ends up dead?  You're a terrible person, you should have intervened!

Whether it is in the world at large, or even just among a circle of friends, it seems that having the best of intentions backfires all too often.

Quoting JBiiirdD:

Well, I think the Bento boxes are a bit much but that's just me. I "fit the mold" in other areas. lol

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

I was honestly thinking the same thing when I saw the "Bento lunches make me roll my eyes" post.  Why are loving Moms who take the time to do something special for/with their child automatically deemed overbearing or stupid?  Do something special for the kids, you're overbearing and need a life.



JBiiirdD
by No Day but Today on Aug. 21, 2013 at 3:59 PM
I went through a rough time with a group of ladies from a different site & you know what I learned? It's the interwebz. No one knows who I really am, just basing assumptions off a few posts & comments. As long as *I* & my husband knows I'm doing my best as a mother, no one else's opinion matters. I think the sooner people stop caring what people on the interwebz think, the better.

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:


It's OK to think the boxes are a bit much, but I don't get the vibe you are judging the Moms who do them, kwim?  The other post she made it seem like Moms who do them are ONLY doing it for selfish reasons, like putting up a front or trying to cover their imperfections.  I do bento boxes WITH my children, because I love cooking/food prep and they like art.  To think I'm just slapped with an "overbearing lable" by some people is just silly.

I guess that goes for a lot of topics on MC, though.  This group judges for EVERYTHING.  Hug your boy?  He's going to be gay!  Give your DD a doll?  You are forcing gender stereotypes!  Drink soda?  You're fat, you're making your kids fat, and your grandkids will be fat, and you all deserve to DIE for being fat!  It goes to such a crazy extreme so fast.  Called the cops because the neighbor was beating his wife?  Should have minded your own business, she won't leave him anyways!  When she ends up dead?  You're a terrible person, you should have intervened!

Whether it is in the world at large, or even just among a circle of friends, it seems that having the best of intentions backfires all too often.


Quoting JBiiirdD:

Well, I think the Bento boxes are a bit much but that's just me. I "fit the mold" in other areas. lol



Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

I was honestly thinking the same thing when I saw the "Bento lunches make me roll my eyes" post.  Why are loving Moms who take the time to do something special for/with their child automatically deemed overbearing or stupid?  Do something special for the kids, you're overbearing and need a life.




Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Aug. 21, 2013 at 4:04 PM

 I do special things for my dd every day.  I would not/do not have anywhere near the capability to make those Bento boxes =0)

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

I was honestly thinking the same thing when I saw the "Bento lunches make me roll my eyes" post.  Why are loving Moms who take the time to do something special for/with their child automatically deemed overbearing or stupid?  Do something special for the kids, you're overbearing and need a life.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 21, 2013 at 4:04 PM

 Now, I don't do anything very artsy or crafty. The artsy lunches wouldn't look edible if I tried. I wish I could, but no. However, I am a very cook and I refuse to send my kid to school with nothing but a cold sandwich. She's five and would be terribly disappointed. She went to school with a chicken and rice stir fry today and blue berries, grapes, cheerios, and crystal light. It's not uncommon for her to go to school with steak and potatoes. It's not that I'm trying to impress anyone, but rather, I want her to have the best I can offer. I don't eat cold sandwiches during my lunch break every day, nor does dh. So why should my child? It's a mindset of "If I'm capable of something, why would I do less??"


Quoting Anonymous:

I know shame on them for doing more than just slapping two pieces of bread together with meat and cheese. Shame. Shame. 

It seems almost taboo these days to put effort into anything, if you do then you must have too much time on your hands. 

Reality is, some families are just structured and organized. There are approximately 16 waking hours in the average parent's day... It isn't exactly difficult to manage those 16 hours to be able to do do those lunches, or anything else us "effort" parent's do. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Found it. How dare mothers attempt to brighten their child's day?! What are these nut jobs thinking?!

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, it's circulating on first page I believe. 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Somehow I missed this thread. Is it in MC?

 

Quoting Anonymous:

I agree and was thinking the same thing. I don't understand why they are questioning the time management or efforts of another mother. 

It's as though mother's are content with doing the bare minimum for their children and anyone who dare put an in level of extra effort are vilified or berated. I don't understand how extra effort can bring such negativity. 

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

I was honestly thinking the same thing when I saw the "Bento lunches make me roll my eyes" post.  Why are loving Moms who take the time to do something special for/with their child automatically deemed overbearing or stupid?  Do something special for the kids, you're overbearing and need a life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 21, 2013 at 4:16 PM

 I'm right there with ya


Quoting Lunarprancer:

 I do special things for my dd every day.  I would not/do not have anywhere near the capability to make those Bento boxes =0)

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

I was honestly thinking the same thing when I saw the "Bento lunches make me roll my eyes" post.  Why are loving Moms who take the time to do something special for/with their child automatically deemed overbearing or stupid?  Do something special for the kids, you're overbearing and need a life.

 


 

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