Yes I know that I sound like a bitch but at this point and time idgaf. Here is why.
We moved into this apartment in March. My oldest dd 10 instantly became friends with this little girl....we will call her K. Well K lives in a two bedroom unit with her grandmother and her special needs uncle. She is part time here, part time with her father who lives in down the street. So she starts spending her partial time here at my house. She is a really sweet girl, and I never have problems with her. She got to the point to where she was spending night after night at the house, eating dinner here and hardly ever going home. I asked her why she wasn't staying with her grandmother and she said that she doesn't have enough room which is understandable. My dd has a daybed with a trundle, so she has a bed to sleep on here. I, btw, stay in a three bedroom unit. I have 3 kids, my son has one room to himself, and the girls both share a room with daybed/trundles.
Now that you have the backstory here is why I can't stand her mom. She and K's little brother J came down a couple of weeks ago from Arkansas. They were hear in April for 6 days. I assumed that they were visiting again but K informs me that her mom is here to stay. So she moved in with K's grandmother with the little boy J who is 4 years old. Now, J and K are always at my house and it seems to be convienet to them to leave J with me to play with my son. My son is 7 almost 8 years old and doesn't want to play house with J all the time. He has friends here that he wants to play with and J is a toddler still so it dampers his fun. The worse part is that K will search for my son while he is outside and tell him to play with J. Then she instructs J to stay with my son and play and runs off. I am not a baby sitter and I don't think that it is cool to bring him over make small talk and go about your day. I don't allow my children to go into any other persons house here and when they go out, so I do. I don't want to play mommy to these kids. I didn't mind K being at the house all the time but J is to little to pawn off on people, and I think that is what they are doing.
I just had to send K and J away because I am trying to get my son into the routine of having protein snacks every two hours per doctors orders. That in itself is expensive for my children, much less the extra two that seem to come to my door quite often. UGH! How do I bring it up to K's mom that I don't appreciate J being brought to my house every single day, multiple times a day without seeming like a child hating bitch?