Now that I got your attention..lol..I need advice..
So dh and I got married at age 18. We wanted to get married, eventually, but not really yet because we wanted to have a real wedding. With the wedding dress, the groomsmen, etc. Well, I was pregnant and his mother is Catholic and she kept harassing us about getting married before we had the baby. She kept telling us that we could have a big wedding later. So, we got married. The marriage itself is great. We are happy. We'll be married for three years next month. Although, I always think of the wedding I wanted to have. We got married to please someone else, not the way we wanted to, and not on our terms..
We do want to have our big wedding. No gifts, though. We wouldn't accept them. Would it have to be a vow renewal? Does a vow renewal mean no bridesmaids? No dress? etc.? Would we have to get married on the same date? If we got married on a different date, how would would that work?