We got pregnant when I was 15. We stayed together and are now married. I'm 20 and he's 22. My SIL thinks that because we did it, she can, too.
However, she doesn't get it. I heard from my MIL that she seems very cocky about being pregnant.. This girl has some issues. She has smoked weed and has gotten drunk. When her mother went out of town for the weekend with her husband (my SIL's stepdad), she threw a party and the cops were called. Apparently they drank all the alcohol in the house, which wasn't much, but still. She has missed so much school and barely passes her classes. In general, she is VERY immature.
Then there is my DH and me... I was a straight-A student. My DH wanted to be involved and got a job right away. He completed a program at the school in order to graduate early. I just graduated last year, on time (I started kindergarten a year late). My parents have supported me through the whole thing. We have a strong relationship and I'm satisfied with my life.
My MIL wants her to get an abortion, but she refuses. I just can not see this girl getting her priorities straight and raising a baby. But according to her, she can do it because we did it. Her unborn child's father doesn't want to be involved, at least right now.
I don't know what to do. I want to support her, but I want to cry for her, too. She has no idea what she's getting herself into. I've watched her mother struggle with her behavior in the past and she's been in counseling, too. It's like nothing my MIL does.helps her.
I was thinking about sending my SIL a message on Facebook and just letting her know I'm here. She needs a support system, whatever decision she makes.. But we aren't super close. What should I do?