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Please do not do this to your kids...

As a kindergarten teacher, I always have a few kids that cry on the first day of school. It is normal and usually I have to deal with parents that hover over their kids when they cry. They are annoying but at least they are showing that they care about their child. This parent just pissed me off.

These people just moved to my area. The school in their old district had not started yet so, when they moved here, he had to go for his first day. He did not go to pre-k so he was scared on his first day. His mother walked him to class and, when she started to leave, he began crying. I did what I normally did for all children who cry. I tried to get him involved but he grabbed onto his mother's pant legs. She turned to him and huffed "Let me go, cry baby!" and she swatted at him like she was going to hit him. He flopped down on the floor and started crying harder. His mother rolled her eyes and said "I've got to go. Can you handle the cry baby or do I just need to take him to my mother's" I told her that I could handle him and I would see if I could calm him down. She glared at him and then yelled "STOP CRYING! THERE IS NO REASON TO CRY! SHUT UP!" I told her the child was not going to calm down as long as she was screaming at him. Then she turned on me. "Oh, so you're going to tell me what to do with my own Goddamn kid? What do you know about raising kids?" (Hello! Four years of college and three, soon to be four kids, but yeah, what do I know about kids?). "Don't you judge me because you're knocked up and think you know everything about being a parent. I know how to talk to my own Goddamn kid and you are not better than I am!" and she turned around and stomped out. It was surprisingly easy to calm the child after "Mommy Dearest" left.

What a bitch? How can somone just talk to their own kid like that and then scream and cuss at his teacher in front of him, and like a room full of other kids? I feel sorry for the poor boy. The father picked him up and appolgized for his wife's behavior and promised that it would never happen again.

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by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:44 PM
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I wasn't taking dog grooming classes in college for four years and then deciding that teaching sounded fun. I was studying child development, child behavior, educational techniques, communicating with children, children's literature, children's health,  ect so yeah, I definately know a lot more about children than she does. I also have younger siblings, nieces, nephews, and young cousins that I have cared for and had a hand in raising, and I have worked in daycare, both in home and not, and I have babysat everyone and his brother's kids since I was 11, taught Sunday school and kept the nursery at church, not to mention the expeirences I had with my own kids and 3 years of teaching kindergarten. No, I do not consider myself an "expert" but I do know quite a lot about children.

And yes, it does scares me how she talked to him when she is alone. I can't believe that the father allows it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Just have to say college doesn't make you an expert on kids, neither does being a mom. That makes you an expert on *your* kids. However, I agree that mom was an asshole. I'd hate to see how she talks to him when no one is listening.

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by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:45 PM
Omg, if I were that kid, I'd be dying to go to school so I could get away from her. It makes me want to find the boy and hug him really hard!
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:46 PM

WOW.......I use to walk all of mine to class BUT I learned the hard way this is not a good thing to do

by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:47 PM
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Holy cow.  Sounds like one of the nuts from CM.

by Silver Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:48 PM
Dog grooming for four years in college?
by Ruby Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:49 PM
I'm all for telling my 6 year old to shake it off and breathe when he gets upset over nothing, but her delivery was just cruel.

It's his first day!
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:49 PM

The mother told the father how she acted or did you inform him?

by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:51 PM

That's how I usually get them calm, by drawing them into activities that we are doing. "Look over here, Elizabeth is coloring a puppy! Do you want to color a puppy too?" "Oh wow, don't these blocks look fun?" That usually helps a lot.

Quoting SnapShotMama:

I've seen it happen. Not the first and not the last. We home school but anytime my kids are going Somewhere or meeting other people we do pep talks and help their get excited about. We dont ask "are you scared/worried about ___" no its a big exciting convo and they always react well and have a bleat

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by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:51 PM
That's disgusting behavior on her part.
by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:52 PM
I never would do that to my kids. Never had to with my first yet he is the one telling me to leave as i want to make sure he is getting to where he needs to go. He is my oldest and will be starting kindergarten in 8days.

His first day of summer school, i walked with him in and got him to the kindergarten section. He sat with the other kids and looked at me and said leave mom, i am fine. I said ok i will go somewhere else and i leaned on the wall next to another parent. I waited to see if he would get up and wanted to make sure he followed the rest of the kids. He did and when he saw me, he said bye and then hollard back leave mom, and most of the other kids were crying, he was one of the few that was not crying.

So i am wondering how his first day of kindergarten will be.
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