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Grandmother Blames Library for Letting 9-Year-Old Check Out Erotic Book

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Grandmother Blames Library for Letting 9-Year-Old Check Out Erotic Book

by Sasha Brown-Worsham

library blamed erotic bookAn Indiana grandmother is furious after her 9-year-old grandson was allowed to check out Night Games by Crystal Jordan via self check-out at the library. The book, apparently, is a sexually explicit erotic novel and is wholly inappropriate for young children. That much is true. But the library was fairly unapologetic, telling the grandmother that it's her responsibility to keep her kids from reading that stuff.

The question: Was the library in the right? I am going with yes.

While I agree with the grandmother that it's disturbing -- and lord knows I would be bothered -- the library is right here. It's a public library, which means they can and should have a lot of books for people to choose from and some of those books may not be for children.

See video here.

The reality is, as parents or guardians, it's our job to protect our kids from what they see. It's one thing to keep things out of a school library, but even that is a slippery slope.

Some of my earliest "erotic" memories come from stealing books from my parents' friends and reading them. Obviously my parents didn't condone this, but hey, they should have kept a better eye on me, right?

We are parents. As parents it's OUR job and our job only to protect our kids. I am sorry for this grandmother. That is upsetting. But the library is right here. As a public library, their job is to make sure the public has access to books.

Hiding books from people isn't the job of the library, and much as I don't think a 9-year-old should be reading that stuff, at least he's reading, right? He's showing an avid interest in books! It's not all bad.

Do you think the library is at fault here?

by on Aug. 22, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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Nolanzo
by Silver Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:12 AM
We have self check-out. If youre using a juvenile card, there are restrictions.

The library is at zero fault here. I think it would be a good idea to update their softwate to put restrictions in place, but its grandmas job to know.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:12 AM
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This is why you go to the library with your child and help them pick out their own books!

fraujones
by Mommytron on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:15 AM

The library is absolutely right. This kind of issue angries up my blood! I work in a library, and it is not our job to censor what kids read. In fact, its ethical to do the opposite. Once we start making judgment calls, things go to hell. It's up to the parents/guardians to be invested in what their kids are reading. 

TranquilMind
by Ruby Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:19 AM

Where was the book?  Did someone stick it in the children's section?

It is our job, but geez...a 9 year old shouldn't be able to check out pornography.   There should at least be an explicit label or something.

EarlGrayHot
by on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:21 AM

We have self check out at our country library.  Have had for some time now.  I have to go with it being the parents or other relative's charge to make sure kids pick out age-appropriate material rather than the library's place to do so.  A librarian's job is to help patrons pick out books and guard the collection not censor who can check out what.

Angela_Barlow
by Platinum Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:21 AM
This!
I swear parents take no responsibility for anything anymore!


Quoting RobinBright:

The library is not responsible for censoring readership. It would be wholly inappropriate for them to do so.
lizard3731
by Bronze Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:23 AM

If the kid thought the book was about video games, he/she probably didn't read it.  It's not the library's place to censor books.  If a parent or guardian feels a book is inapproriate, he/she should pay more attention to what the kid is checking out.

VeggieRunnerMom
by Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:27 AM

I think it is totally up to the adult in the child's life BUT I would like to think that our library would have my back so to speak and question a book like that being checked out :0)

SusanTheWriter
by on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:28 AM

If you've seen the cover of the book, it's not like it wasn't INCREDIBLY obvious that it was inappropriate for children. The boy knew what he was checking out and by using the self-checkout, he was probably trying to sneak something past. Luckily, his father caught him (not his grandma).

So Dad did his job, but Granny is making a stink because she thinks it's the library's responsibility to raise children.

No. It's the library's responsibility to serve the reading public, no matter what they choose to read.

And age-restricted library cards are usually only for kids who are 6 and under.

Sanctimommy
by Platinum Member on Aug. 22, 2013 at 10:29 AM
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I worked in a library for years. We never censored what the patrons checked out. That goes for the erotic "unrated" movies. There was a memorable incident invovling a very unhappy father, an 11 year old girl, and a movie that featured a threesome that ended with the two men and oral sex. The only thing left out was the money shots. (Buddha of Suburbia, I think. What impressed me was that the kid was able to sit through the rest of that crappy film to get to the part with the homosexual sex).

The library is NOT a daycare. Supervise your kids, godammit. Make an effort.

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