If you are a sahm but your kids are in school, do you feel guilty for not working? Also do you expect your dh/so to help out with household chores or do you do it all?
I have been both a working mom(hours opposite of dh or during school hours so one of us was home with the kids) and a sahm (both when the kids were to young for school and after starting school). I quit my job a few months ago because the stress was making my medical conditions(limiting but not on disability) worse. Now that school has started and I am at home all day I feel like I should be working. We can afford for me to be a sahm but just barely. We do not need to be on any assistance and have no trouble paying bills but there is no money for extras. I have several friends who are sahms with kids in school so I know it is not uncommon. So what do you do to assuage the guilt, if you have any? I find myself(now and in the past) cleaning all day or finding small projects around the house to do, not only to take up my time but because the kids work hard at school all day and dh works hard to provide for us and I feel it is my job to make a home they are happy to come home to. But I can only clean so much. I am already involved in PTA and volunteer at school. How do I get past feeling like I am not doing enough?