My boyfriend of four years has stopped contributing financially to this family. I have to nag him to pay 50% of the bills - rent, water, electricity, and gas.
I also have my own bills to pay on top of those - cell phone, childcare, and a credit card. I have always been financially sound. Always. I feel I make good choices and budget well.
He has a great job that pays around $20/hour with overtime. I do not know where all his money goes.
I can not even have fun with the man because I wonder what bill he is neglecting to pay for whatever it is that we're doing. I just can't do it anymore. On top of that, I pay for all the bills so I can't even afford to have my own fun.
He's a great guy MINUS this HUGE piece of the puzzle. He says he wants to get married - but how can we get married when he can't even 'afford' to pay bills.
So, after much, much, much talk about these issues - I'm thinking about giving him an ultimatum. Are there any positives to doing this or are there only bad outcomes? Would you just split up and move on instead of giving him another chance? Thanks!