My Son's girlfriend is back here in Ohio. She lives in Texas but goes to College here. They met last Spring about 2 months before her classes were over and she had to head back to Texas. They have spent the Summer texting, Skyping (I met her on Skype and she seems sweet, confident, and very nice), and getting to know one another better.
She and her Dad made the drive from Texas over the last few days and finally rolled in this afternoon. Her Dad is spending the evening with her, helping her unpack, taking her to dinner and all that.
Tomorrow morning my Son is to make the hour drive to where she goes to school to meet her Dad. They'll all have lunch together, drive her Dad to the airport to head back to Texas, and then my Son has a hotel room booked so he and she can spend the night together. He's not allowed to stay in her dorm.
Sunday, he can go hang at her Dorm with her, meet her friends and help her finish unpacking, and then he'll head home tomorrow late afternoon.
I was talking to my friend tonight and mentioned DH and I had the evening to ourselves tomorrow and we're trying to think of something fun to do. She asked why we're on our own, so I told her about DS's plans and she freaked out. She simply could not believe I was okay with my son staying the night in a hotel with his girlfriend. There's no way I was going to tell her I let him put the room on my credit card because he doesn't have one. lol He gave me cash.
Am I crazy, or is this not totally fine? I have no problem with it. She's on birth control but he also has condoms and we talk pretty openly about the need to use them even though she's on the pill because nothing is 100%.
I honestly don't see the issue, but my friend is also one of those Moms who demands to know where her son is, what he's doing, and who he's with every second of every day ... and he's 20.