My birthday was today. I got lots of happy birthdays on my facebook and stuff.
I have a friend that I had sex with one time on my birthday 5 years ago before DH and I ever met. I never told DH we slept together because he never asked and I thought it might cause problems over nothing because I remained friends with him.
Problem is, every year since then he has sent me a message saying "remember what I gave you 3 years ago on your birthday?", and 4 years ago and 5 years ago.
I've told him to stop doing it. I told him if he did it again that I was blocking him on facebook and changing my number. He said if I did that he would tell DH that we had slept together.
In a way its no big deal and I don't think DH would care. But at the same time I am thinking I should tell him just in case the nutball does decide to tell DH. I don't think he will really say anything though.
I should have stopped being friends with him after we slept together because things got really weird between us, but I thought it was just me and we could fix the mistake, but he won't let me forget it.
I was having a nice birthday until then.
Also, he is friends with DH. That is why we never told him. I really liked DH when I met him and I asked the friend not to tell him we had slept together because I didn't want DH to be weirded out by it.