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In two weeks I sign custody of my kids away. ( please READ the POST )

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Because I love them. There is a fine line between fighting for them, and fighting over them. I will not use my children as objects. As something to be drug to court every other month. They will grow up normal happy children because they are loved. And because I love them I am doing what is best right now for them. Two years ago I was a sahm. Raising my 3 beautiful girls. Today I get visitation. I pick them up from school on the days I'm off. They live 10 minutes from me. When I got divorced things were hard. I wasn't getting child support so I moved in with my boyfriend because I needed help. We didn't get married and that started a custody war. My children were placed in temp custody of my ex. I have spent the past few months overcoming severe depression a nervous breakdown and each day I am trying to feel normal again. My kids are very loved and cared for. Surrounded by family. I made the decision to sign away custody so they could keep their normal as much as possible. In two weeks I sign custody away and I will get a check for 9,000 in back child support. My kids will continue living their lives in what is considered our new normal. My ex and I are on ok terms after I pretty much surrendered. I will get open visitation. Any time I want to see them I can. I talk to them daily. Take them for ice cream after school. I love my kids so I'm not GIVING THEM UP. I'm GIVING THEM NORMAL AND HAPPINESS. I am confident in my decision, and I hope they understand some day.


EDIT TO CLARIFY- the papers will be signed at a COURTHOUSE with LAWYERS in front of a JUDGE. the papers will be on MY terms or i will not sign. this is voluntary to quit the fight.

the MONEY- i did not know about it until after we made this decision. i am not SELLING my kids. that will go to pay for me moving to a new house, and i start COLLEGE in january. i think his family came up with the idea with his lawyer so during this time i can go ahead and get my degrees.

its not my RIGHTS- its CUSTODY. i will have open visitation. i see them muliple times a week. and i will get weekends. i dont have to worry about them moving or thier father getting a new wife. hes not into that. hes...different. *i* filed for divorce. i left. he didnt leave me.

i really am doing whats best for them.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:24 PM
Replies (11-20):
stickyfingers
by Platinum Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:30 PM
You are strong. I really commend you for that. You are a good mom
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:30 PM
So why sign away your rights? Just give ex custody. You are not fighting for them. Wow!
theresa13183
by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:30 PM
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agreed

i will always fight for my son

and it sounds like were missing part of the story...they dont usually take away custody for no reason


Quoting Anonymous:

I don't even know what to say. A mother not fighting for her children, it's very sad to me!



KyliesMom5
by Platinum Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:30 PM

 While I am sure this has been tough. I can't imagine not fighting for my daughter. I am divorced and I deal with an ex that is not paying what he is supposed to and is getting farther and farther behind. It's tough and am not able to do everything that I could when I was married but I won't ever give up my daughter.

Jamie1972
by Ruby Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:30 PM

That had to be a very hard decision to make. Do they know and understand what is happening . And why your are doing this?

bowribbonmama
by Ruby Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:31 PM
I see no issue as long as you remain actively involved. Sometimes being with dad is what is best for everyone involved.
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smileydawn
by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:31 PM
I'm really sorry for what you're going through. I really hope things get better for you. And as long as you continue to stay a very active part in their lives, and feel like you've done what's in their best interest. Imo, that makes you a good mom. Good luck to you op. *hugs*
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:31 PM
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Im not signing away my rights. Just custody. It's no different than a man getting his kids on holidays. Double standard.


Quoting Anonymous:

Sounds like you are giving away your kids for $9k. Pathetic. Lets see how much you are actually "allowed" to see them after you sign away your rights. I would DIE before I willingly gave my babies away.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:31 PM

I guess your "better" than me.  I would be fighting tooth and nail for my child.  There is no way I could just give away my kids with out a fight.  Hopefully your ex is a great dad because they need a parent that will love them and be there 100% of the time for them.

msjaxon
by Platinum Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:31 PM
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Uhhh whatever helps you sleep at night. Im not against moms that turn over primary custody because it is truly better but you sound like you're half quitting half selling them.
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