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In two weeks I sign custody of my kids away. ( please READ the POST )

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Because I love them. There is a fine line between fighting for them, and fighting over them. I will not use my children as objects. As something to be drug to court every other month. They will grow up normal happy children because they are loved. And because I love them I am doing what is best right now for them. Two years ago I was a sahm. Raising my 3 beautiful girls. Today I get visitation. I pick them up from school on the days I'm off. They live 10 minutes from me. When I got divorced things were hard. I wasn't getting child support so I moved in with my boyfriend because I needed help. We didn't get married and that started a custody war. My children were placed in temp custody of my ex. I have spent the past few months overcoming severe depression a nervous breakdown and each day I am trying to feel normal again. My kids are very loved and cared for. Surrounded by family. I made the decision to sign away custody so they could keep their normal as much as possible. In two weeks I sign custody away and I will get a check for 9,000 in back child support. My kids will continue living their lives in what is considered our new normal. My ex and I are on ok terms after I pretty much surrendered. I will get open visitation. Any time I want to see them I can. I talk to them daily. Take them for ice cream after school. I love my kids so I'm not GIVING THEM UP. I'm GIVING THEM NORMAL AND HAPPINESS. I am confident in my decision, and I hope they understand some day.


EDIT TO CLARIFY- the papers will be signed at a COURTHOUSE with LAWYERS in front of a JUDGE. the papers will be on MY terms or i will not sign. this is voluntary to quit the fight.

the MONEY- i did not know about it until after we made this decision. i am not SELLING my kids. that will go to pay for me moving to a new house, and i start COLLEGE in january. i think his family came up with the idea with his lawyer so during this time i can go ahead and get my degrees.

its not my RIGHTS- its CUSTODY. i will have open visitation. i see them muliple times a week. and i will get weekends. i dont have to worry about them moving or thier father getting a new wife. hes not into that. hes...different. *i* filed for divorce. i left. he didnt leave me.

i really am doing whats best for them.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:24 PM
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HumanBeing
by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:31 PM
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Why do you have to sign away custody?

Couldn't you be joint legal at least?

Brw I am not custodial parent of my oldest. We are very relaxed and no custody order. So I get him a few weekends a month, at least half of vacations and if I want to drive 45 minutes I can go see him whenever.

I never had to sign anything away? When I had ds full time and ex partial he never signed anything away either.
deadlights86
by Platinum Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:32 PM
My mom did that I hated her for a very long time for it but now we're closer than ever.
thejodigirl
by Gold Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:33 PM
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She said custody not parental rights. Would you "DIE" keeping a child in your custody even if it meant they would be more stable for now somewhere else? 

Quoting Anonymous:

Sounds like you are giving away your kids for $9k. Pathetic. Lets see how much you are actually "allowed" to see them after you sign away your rights. I would DIE before I willingly gave my babies away.



WaffleHead
by Silver Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:33 PM
You really think you will get the check? And you really think you will be able to see then when you want.
I may have been able to halfway understand this until you threw in that you will be getting that check.That made UT sound like you are doing this f for financial reasons.
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Mrs.Godfrey
by Bronze Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:33 PM

sounds to me like you just sold them for 9k.. if you intend on staying int heir lives why sign over rights? just let him have custody and continue being their mother


method209
by Silver Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:33 PM

I hope it all works out for you, I personally would never give up my rights to my daughter.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:33 PM

Oh, hell no.  The judge would have to declare I couldn't have them after every fighting breath. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:33 PM
So you get child support back and have no custody rights??


Quoting Anonymous:

Im not signing away my rights. Just custody. It's no different than a man getting his kids on holidays. Double standard.




Quoting Anonymous:

Sounds like you are giving away your kids for $9k. Pathetic. Lets see how much you are actually "allowed" to see them after you sign away your rights. I would DIE before I willingly gave my babies away.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:34 PM
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They will go through a period of resentment towards you be prepared for that.  Knowing that you gave up so easily.  It might not seem that way to you but that is exactly the way it feels to a child.  That they weren't worth fighting for.  They will probably come around in their adult years.

morrigan914
by Gold Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:34 PM
So you're selling your kids for $9000? Nice. It's all fine and dandy till dad moves, or changes his mind about your visitation or gets a new girlfriend
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