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In two weeks I sign custody of my kids away. ( please READ the POST )

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Because I love them. There is a fine line between fighting for them, and fighting over them. I will not use my children as objects. As something to be drug to court every other month. They will grow up normal happy children because they are loved. And because I love them I am doing what is best right now for them. Two years ago I was a sahm. Raising my 3 beautiful girls. Today I get visitation. I pick them up from school on the days I'm off. They live 10 minutes from me. When I got divorced things were hard. I wasn't getting child support so I moved in with my boyfriend because I needed help. We didn't get married and that started a custody war. My children were placed in temp custody of my ex. I have spent the past few months overcoming severe depression a nervous breakdown and each day I am trying to feel normal again. My kids are very loved and cared for. Surrounded by family. I made the decision to sign away custody so they could keep their normal as much as possible. In two weeks I sign custody away and I will get a check for 9,000 in back child support. My kids will continue living their lives in what is considered our new normal. My ex and I are on ok terms after I pretty much surrendered. I will get open visitation. Any time I want to see them I can. I talk to them daily. Take them for ice cream after school. I love my kids so I'm not GIVING THEM UP. I'm GIVING THEM NORMAL AND HAPPINESS. I am confident in my decision, and I hope they understand some day.

EDIT TO CLARIFY- the papers will be signed at a COURTHOUSE with LAWYERS in front of a JUDGE. the papers will be on MY terms or i will not sign. this is voluntary to quit the fight.

the MONEY- i did not know about it until after we made this decision. i am not SELLING my kids. that will go to pay for me moving to a new house, and i start COLLEGE in january. i think his family came up with the idea with his lawyer so during this time i can go ahead and get my degrees.

its not my RIGHTS- its CUSTODY. i will have open visitation. i see them muliple times a week. and i will get weekends. i dont have to worry about them moving or thier father getting a new wife. hes not into that. hes...different. *i* filed for divorce. i left. he didnt leave me.

i really am doing whats best for them.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:24 PM
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by Platinum Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:34 PM
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If you sign over legal custody, you lose all rights to see the kids. He can screw you over in that case and you might never see the kids again. If you are agreeing to being the Non-Custodial Parent you will pay child support and have legal visitations. Be careful which one you are signing. 

by Emmy on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:34 PM
This. It sounds like he beat you down so far you feel like this is your only option.

Quoting macbudsmom:

Glad they can have consistancy but there dad sounds very controlling verging on the edge of abusive... Are you sure this is in the kids' best interest???

by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:34 PM
That is what my mom said. Then my dad took control. Left her with two houses and all the bills and left the state with us. She fought him for the next 15 years to get to see us, usually two weeks in the summer. I was a long, drawn out and ugly battle for her. I hope for your kids sake your ex is a better man than my dad.
by Anonymous 10 on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:35 PM

Good luck. My dad did this and my mother took off with us. Hope you don't end up the same situation

by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:35 PM
So why did your ex get custody in the first place?
by Platinum Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:35 PM
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I have a feeling there's more to the story. I guess dad doesn't approve of the sition at your boyfriends house or something. 

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:35 PM
I'm getting the 9 k because of the thousands in court and lawyer fees. I didn't know about it until after I made the decision. His lawyer did all that.
by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:35 PM
I wouldn't be able to do what you're doing but at least the kids will have people who love them as much as you do. Sometimes you have to make hard decisions in life and that sucks but always know that your kids will love their mommy no matter what happens. Keep your chin up and I'm here if you need to talk
by Gold Member on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:35 PM
Ffs people learn to read! She's not signing away her parental rights, she's giving custody to their father!
by on Aug. 25, 2013 at 9:36 PM
She's not signing her RIGHTS away. She is and still will be their legal mother. She is signing CUSTODY away. There's a HUGE difference. When you sign away rights, you stop being a parent.

Quoting Anonymous:

No after you sign your rights away you cannot see them anytime you want. You are giving them up. How do you know your ex husband won't pull a jerk move and take the children completely away from you?

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