I was married for over 10 years. My divorce has been final since Feb 15 and we separated last August. The initial BS and animosity has started to fade, but damn it, co-parenting sucks. It's freaking hard. I just want to be the mom and make the decisions like I always used to. Exh never cared before, he would tell me "just take care of it, you're the mom." But because things cost him time, money, commitment... Everything has to go through him first. My boy wants to take golf, I have to ask exh if he's ok taking him on his wknds, if he's ok helping pay, if he's going to help with adtl practices. It's always something. It doesn't matter if its golf, homework, dentist appts, exh always has to make it more difficult. Then after I jump through hoops and try to compromise and find some middle ground, it gets thrown back at me about how I'm being demanding by scheduling all this stuff. Ummm...no, that's called being a parent. I know he didn't do any of it for the first ten years, but that doesn't mean that the stuff didn't get done!
Ok, I feel better. Guess I just needed to vent. I thought I had a question...maybe I forgot.
on Aug. 26, 2013 at 10:57 PM