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What would you do if your kid was a bully? *Update pg 4*

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My kid is way too young for me to worry about that (2 y.o.), but my cousin's son (9 y.o.) is this close to being the family bully.

He is disrespectful to grown ups and mean to other kids, hitting and calling them names.

She came to me for help and I'm at a loss. Anyone has some advice?

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 27, 2013 at 11:19 PM
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mrswillie
by Gold Member on Aug. 28, 2013 at 7:06 AM
I raised my step daughter from the time she was 9 yo. She was the bully on the school bus. First, we made her apologized, in person, to not only the victim, but also the parents. We also made her sit at the table for a couple hours and think about her actions and how she could have handled the situation better. She also lost tv and video games.
skittlefart
by on Aug. 28, 2013 at 7:08 AM

I have no idea...I think that I'll only be able to truly know when the time actually comes. But DS is such a sensitive sweet baby..I'm not sure he'll actually ever pick up HOW to be a bully...all I really know is that my heart will break...hard...:( 

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JustBreath2013
by on Aug. 28, 2013 at 7:08 AM
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I would remove everything except 1 sheet, 1 blanket and the next days clothes. No tv, games or friends and all would have to be earned back.
Blue_Spiral
by Gold Member on Aug. 28, 2013 at 7:27 AM
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I love how the response to unruly children is to hurt them or to assume that they're spoiled.

Give me a break.

ashley9603
by RunningMomma on Aug. 28, 2013 at 7:33 AM
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Bully behavior starts at the home...nip it in the bud as early as possible.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 28, 2013 at 7:58 AM
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child behavior specialist is an option...giving the kid a good ass whooping mite be another...taking him to the police station to see where he'll end up if he keeps on this path, is another idea...

momto2boys973
by Ruby Member on Aug. 28, 2013 at 8:00 AM
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She obviously needs to establish more discipline. But it's easier said than done, it's something that needs to be learned. So I would suggest counseling, obviously to know what's causing the bullying, but also for her to learn new tools to establish her authority.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 28, 2013 at 8:09 AM


Did it work? As a former bully - I probably would have laughed at that "punishment" :/ So thankful I've changed.

Quoting mrswillie:

I raised my step daughter from the time she was 9 yo. She was the bully on the school bus. First, we made her apologized, in person, to not only the victim, but also the parents. We also made her sit at the table for a couple hours and think about her actions and how she could have handled the situation better. She also lost tv and video games.



NiCo86
by on Aug. 28, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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I would ensure consistency and appropriateness in punishments, discuss his bully behavior with his teachers to raise awareness to discourage further bullying, and I'd seek psychiatric attention to discover the underlying issues.
Kyndall30
by Gold Member on Aug. 28, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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Teach her how to staunch the blood flow from her nose...that way, when her victim retaliates, her clothes don't get ruined.

Actually, I would probably seek some kind of counselling, for her and my husband and me. Bullies can be products of a number of things, but there's almost inevitably parenting fails in that mix.
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