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Dh, so, hit you?! Why should I feel bad?

Anonymous
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A friend has a so who routinely hits her. She has a support system and a job. Yesterday the little punk hit her on the side of the head while she was driving. The police ended up I involved and escorted him to his mother's. By afternoon the friend was back with him. Of course it was because "I love him!!!". I am sorry but I can't feel bad for women who will not help themselves. This isn't someone with no resources and no where to go.

EDIT....Clearly I need to clarify some things. Yes, I have been in an abusive relationship. Yes, I had the strength and the courage to get out. I stayed for 10 years. When I left I had no parents, money, or job skills. This friend has all of those things but chooses to stay. She does not have self-esteem issues and she also hits back quite often. I am the one who called the police yesterday. The local officers know the situation well as they have been called so often. She refused to press charges once again.

I can only feel bad for someone for so long. You simply can't help those who won't help themselves.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:25 PM
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happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:27 PM
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I can never understand this subject..

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:28 PM
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Oh goody someone else that has no clue what they are talking about spewing shit out anyway!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:28 PM
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Some women are fools for men (and vice versa). I still have compassion for them, but it's for what they don't understand. It's for when someday they wake up and realize they deserved better and deserve love. 

owl0210
by Emerald Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:28 PM
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It's called Battered Womens Syndrome.
camocountrymom
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:29 PM
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I agree. If you (generally speaking) allow it to happen, I'm not gonna feel sorry for you.
I have a friend whose dh hits her occasionally. At the beginning of the summer she left him and stayed with me for 3 months the out of the blue calls me at work and tells me she's going back. I swear she has Stockholm syndrome.
lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:29 PM
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Sad situation. Abusers pick women that lack confidence. They some how make them believe no one else would want them. Its a hard cycle to break.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:29 PM

Been dealing with this with a family member for over 20 years.  Have tried to help her numerous times. She always goes back.  I have taken to calling her "shit for brains" behind her back.

Caera
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:29 PM

Every single woman I've ever spoken to who has had an issue with their husband or boyfriend, including one of my sisters, has gone back because she "loves him".

It is the MOST FRUSTRATING thing to see over and over again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:30 PM
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You will NEVER understand unless you are in that situation.

I also fail to believe this completely bc he would've been arrested.  Is this the first time the cops were involved?

Mamie_85
by Platinum Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:30 PM
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Do you think it's a coincidence abusers pick partners who have low self esteem and are easy to control?
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