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Dh, so, hit you?! Why should I feel bad?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
A friend has a so who routinely hits her. She has a support system and a job. Yesterday the little punk hit her on the side of the head while she was driving. The police ended up I involved and escorted him to his mother's. By afternoon the friend was back with him. Of course it was because "I love him!!!". I am sorry but I can't feel bad for women who will not help themselves. This isn't someone with no resources and no where to go.

EDIT....Clearly I need to clarify some things. Yes, I have been in an abusive relationship. Yes, I had the strength and the courage to get out. I stayed for 10 years. When I left I had no parents, money, or job skills. This friend has all of those things but chooses to stay. She does not have self-esteem issues and she also hits back quite often. I am the one who called the police yesterday. The local officers know the situation well as they have been called so often. She refused to press charges once again.

I can only feel bad for someone for so long. You simply can't help those who won't help themselves.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:25 PM
Replies (11-20):
gemikris82
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:31 PM

its a vicious cycle.  i was in an abusive relationship. i had a job and a support system. i told no one about the abuse.  i didnt leave him for a year.  finally i left. but it took me a while.

i_am_no_1
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:31 PM

I agree to a point.

I think if it happens more than twice, the woman should realize it's not changing.

TrouserMouse
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:31 PM
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We all have things about ourselves that we want to change, but struggle to. It is easy for people to look from the outside and judge. Things are never as simple as they appear.
DanaG70
by Platinum Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:31 PM
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 Be glad that you don't understand, that means you haven't gone through it.

first-one
by Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:31 PM
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This.

And please read about it before you (not you owl!) starting calling people 'shit for brains' behind their backs...  Obviously it's something most of you don't understand.

Quoting owl0210:

It's called Battered Womens Syndrome.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:31 PM
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 We do not allow it to happen, we believe we deserve it.


Quoting camocountrymom:

I agree. If you (generally speaking) allow it to happen, I'm nit gonna feel sorry for you.
I have a friend whose dh hits her occasionally. At the begintof the summer she left him and stayed with me for 3 months the out of the blue calls me at work and tells me she's going back. I swear she has Stockholm syndrome.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:32 PM

I agree, although I've never been in that kind of abusive relationship, so I certainly don't know what goes on in the mind of someone who is, but for me, I really just don't get it. If you can leave, why would you not?

owl0210
by Emerald Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:33 PM
Right? Abuse happens across all socioeconomic and educational backgrounds.

Quoting first-one:

This.

And please read about it before you (not you owl!) starting calling people 'shit for brains' behind their backs...  Obviously it's something most of you don't understand.

Quoting owl0210:

It's called Battered Womens Syndrome.


saralizjr
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:33 PM

i wouldn't feel sorry niether

instant
by Platinum Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:34 PM

You won't understand unless you are in that situation. 


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