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Dh, so, hit you?! Why should I feel bad?

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A friend has a so who routinely hits her. She has a support system and a job. Yesterday the little punk hit her on the side of the head while she was driving. The police ended up I involved and escorted him to his mother's. By afternoon the friend was back with him. Of course it was because "I love him!!!". I am sorry but I can't feel bad for women who will not help themselves. This isn't someone with no resources and no where to go.

EDIT....Clearly I need to clarify some things. Yes, I have been in an abusive relationship. Yes, I had the strength and the courage to get out. I stayed for 10 years. When I left I had no parents, money, or job skills. This friend has all of those things but chooses to stay. She does not have self-esteem issues and she also hits back quite often. I am the one who called the police yesterday. The local officers know the situation well as they have been called so often. She refused to press charges once again.

I can only feel bad for someone for so long. You simply can't help those who won't help themselves.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 29, 2013 at 1:25 PM
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tezell78
by Silver Member on Sep. 2, 2013 at 10:31 PM
Having been that woman, honestly I think part of it is an Addiction to the extreme' emotions and the rush that she experiences
and part of it is the sick belief that because he hits her he obviously loves her.
I stayed with my xdh for 18 months after the first time he hit me. No clue why other than I was stupid and scared.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Sep. 2, 2013 at 10:44 PM

 People who sit back & do nothing while someone is getting the crap beat out of them lack morals, how do you not see that?

Like I said if you are ok w/that then you are in fact cold & yes you do lack morals. Don't like my opinion oh well.


Quoting Basherte:

I was raised to respond to people when they talk to me. Not to be rude and just leave a conversation.

I'm good with my self. I'm good with my thoughts, feelings, and moral code.

I like myself as I am.

Quoting Anonymous:

 LOL I'm not doing any of those 3 things, just calling it like I see it.  If you do not like what I have to say feel free to stop quoting me.

Good don't apologize for listening to someone getting beaten, possibly to death while you sit back & do nothing.  Don't apologize for the actions.  But if you were comfortable w/that decision & liked yourself for it you wouldn't feel the need to continue to come back so much to this post.

Doing nothing when someone else is in need is wrong, plain & simple.  That isn't bitching, whining or complaining, lol. Why in the hell would I report or block you? What a ridiculous statement.

 

Quoting Basherte:

All I'm getting from you is bitching, whining, and complaining. If you don't like me then stop talking to me, or block me or report me.

I will not apologize for how I feel on this subject.

Quoting Anonymous:

 LMAO, you can't keep it straight.  First "I won't call the cops" then "I will call the cops" and now again it is "I won't call the cops."

Learn to read, I NEVER said your friends would abuse anyone!

Oh goody you help a child being abused but not a child WITNESSING abuse.  Way to go.  Really you do have issues.

Oh if you didn't see it huh? Well whatever makes you feel better bc you know you don't typically see the smacks as you aren't living in the house.   You found yet another excuse to make yourself feel better.

Cold hearted people is a huge problem in this country these days, thank you for contributing to the problem.

I never said I couldn't stop conversing w/you.  You were the one having issues so yeah you can feel free to move along.

 

Quoting Basherte:

I'm not back peddling. I won't call the cops.

You are free to stop conversing with me at any moment as well.

None of my friends would physically abuse anyone.

A child I would call on, IF I heard it and was sure that it was abuse, because a child can't defend themselves.

Would I call the police on a man for hitting a woman? If I didn't see it? Hell no.

Yes there are some things that I am cold about. I won't apologize for it either.

 

I put the blame for the abuse squarely on the shoulders of the one that is abusing. Especially the first time. After that. . . if the woman hasn't left after the first time.. she's on her own. Unless she comes to me and says that she needs help. Then I would do everything in my power to help.

Quoting Anonymous:

 Lady you specifically said "I REFUSE TO CALL THE POLICE ON ANYONE BEING HIT."  Don't back pedal now, it is discusting.

Who cares if they don't leave, you expect something in return.  That isn't right.  People shouldn't do anything expecting anything out of it.  In this situation you can hope but the only thing you can expect is that you hopefully saved her life that night, or a child's life, or the life of an unborn child.

Nobody asked you to wait around, you sound rather out there & cold.  How sad.

Well look out close friends, you won't help them if they get hit.

Move along bc you just look worse & worse to me every time you open your mouth.


 

 



 

Basherte
by Platinum Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 6:13 AM

I don't follow that logic.

Just because my moral code isn't the same as yours doesn't mean I have no morals.


Quoting Anonymous:

 People who sit back & do nothing while someone is getting the crap beat out of them lack morals, how do you not see that?

Like I said if you are ok w/that then you are in fact cold & yes you do lack morals. Don't like my opinion oh well.


Quoting Basherte:

I was raised to respond to people when they talk to me. Not to be rude and just leave a conversation.

I'm good with my self. I'm good with my thoughts, feelings, and moral code.

I like myself as I am.

Quoting Anonymous:

 LOL I'm not doing any of those 3 things, just calling it like I see it.  If you do not like what I have to say feel free to stop quoting me.

Good don't apologize for listening to someone getting beaten, possibly to death while you sit back & do nothing.  Don't apologize for the actions.  But if you were comfortable w/that decision & liked yourself for it you wouldn't feel the need to continue to come back so much to this post.

Doing nothing when someone else is in need is wrong, plain & simple.  That isn't bitching, whining or complaining, lol. Why in the hell would I report or block you? What a ridiculous statement.


Quoting Basherte:

All I'm getting from you is bitching, whining, and complaining. If you don't like me then stop talking to me, or block me or report me.

I will not apologize for how I feel on this subject.

Quoting Anonymous:

 LMAO, you can't keep it straight.  First "I won't call the cops" then "I will call the cops" and now again it is "I won't call the cops."

Learn to read, I NEVER said your friends would abuse anyone!

Oh goody you help a child being abused but not a child WITNESSING abuse.  Way to go.  Really you do have issues.

Oh if you didn't see it huh? Well whatever makes you feel better bc you know you don't typically see the smacks as you aren't living in the house.   You found yet another excuse to make yourself feel better.

Cold hearted people is a huge problem in this country these days, thank you for contributing to the problem.

I never said I couldn't stop conversing w/you.  You were the one having issues so yeah you can feel free to move along.


Quoting Basherte:

I'm not back peddling. I won't call the cops.

You are free to stop conversing with me at any moment as well.

None of my friends would physically abuse anyone.

A child I would call on, IF I heard it and was sure that it was abuse, because a child can't defend themselves.

Would I call the police on a man for hitting a woman? If I didn't see it? Hell no.

Yes there are some things that I am cold about. I won't apologize for it either.


I put the blame for the abuse squarely on the shoulders of the one that is abusing. Especially the first time. After that. . . if the woman hasn't left after the first time.. she's on her own. Unless she comes to me and says that she needs help. Then I would do everything in my power to help.

Quoting Anonymous:

 Lady you specifically said "I REFUSE TO CALL THE POLICE ON ANYONE BEING HIT."  Don't back pedal now, it is discusting.

Who cares if they don't leave, you expect something in return.  That isn't right.  People shouldn't do anything expecting anything out of it.  In this situation you can hope but the only thing you can expect is that you hopefully saved her life that night, or a child's life, or the life of an unborn child.

Nobody asked you to wait around, you sound rather out there & cold.  How sad.

Well look out close friends, you won't help them if they get hit.

Move along bc you just look worse & worse to me every time you open your mouth.








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