"I left my job, house, and family to move across country with a man I met online"
My childhood best friend met a guy online around the beginning of the year. They have been talking for months. online...skype...over the phone...basically, they have been having a long-distance relationship. the only thing is, they had never met in person. she says this guy is amazing, sweet, and all around perfect. so a month ago she tells us all she is moving across country to be with him. when I say across country I'm not exaggerating. we live in texas and he is in hawaii.
of course I voice my concerns...not trying to talk her out of it just making sure she is positive of her decision. i even suggest maybe she just initially visit. but she is insistent that she loves him, they are getting married, and want to start a family....besides "hawaii is going to be so awesome...even if things don't work out she will probably just stay" (her words).
So she's there for a week and calls crying because his family doesn't like her. She spent all her money getting there so can't afford to get home and he won't pay for it. So...I funded her return home.
My question is, to some degree, is this not her fault? I mean, she disregarded all advice. she dropped everything with no real security. she had never met the man face to face. she is mad at me for not agreeing with her that she is a victim. how is she a victim for disregarding all logic and making a completely ridiculous decision?