My DH works weird hours, he will work 3 days in a row, between work and commute, he is gone 15-16 hours per day. But then he is off 4 days in a row after that. Now, I understand that the 3 days he works, he wants to come home, eat dinner and watch TV or play video games and mostly be left alone and I am fine with that (though it gets kind of lonely). He usually spends a good amount of time with me and the kids (we have a 5 year old, a 2 year old and I am pregnant) on his 4 days off. But over the past couple of months, the amount of time he has been spending with us has drastically decreased. He used to spend at least half of the evenings with me but now, he mostly plays his game. He swears he will make it up to me the next day, he won't even get on at all but of course, he does anyway. We have gotten in several major fights over it and nothing has changed, even though, most of the times, he promises he will change.
I am at my witts end. I hate the way things are, I feel like we are just room mates who occastionally have sex, I am so upset about it but at the same time, as much as I have tried, I can't do anything to change things. I have tried giving him his space and just let him do what he wants and waiting for him to come to me, I have tried talking to him about not spending time with me and the kids and I know I have gotten to the point that I am a bit naggy.
Anyway, I have decided, I will still take care of the kids, do all the laundry and the cooking but not the extra stuff for him. He can get up early and get his stuff together for work, make his own coffee and lunch and when he gets home from work, he can heat up whatever it was that me and the kids had for dinner (I usually do that for him while he is in the shower).
Would all of this upset you if you were in my place?