How to GENTLY guide my friend to NOT get an Abortion. FINAL UPDATE
My friend is mid 20's and been dating a guy for 6 month and just a few weeks pregnant, he already has a kid and she didnt wants kids until 30ish. She's torn and so sad, she doesnt want a baby right now. I get that but I cant encourage her decision I so badly want her to think harder about it! ILL SUPPORT HER NO MATTER WHAT.
But Ill be so sad if she aborts :( I Love her as my bestfriend and dont want her to regret this!
ETA: Didnt read any new replies yet. But I talked to my friend last night and she told me she wants to keep the baby but her bf doesnt want her to and thats why she feels like she has to do this. I just told her she REAALLLY needs to tell him that she wants the baby and if they both decide after an honest conversation that an abortion is what they Both want then I'll support her in her decision. I dont think my friend should suffer because he already has one baby mama. If she wants her baby she should keep it imo
ETA2- We hung out again yesterday with another friend of ours and and she told us she was already thinking of names but still undecided, I think she's set on keeping it but wanted to talk to her bf again and if he's still stuck on not wanting it she wont keep it :/ she doesnt want to risk ending up a single mother but I know that when she has her baby her baby will mean soooo much more to her then her bf. But I know being a single parent is hard too..if she aborts she will do it within the week :(
ETA3- The type of abortion my friend would get is a pill, she would take a pill or a series of pills (still not sure really) and then she would bleed out her pregnancy pretty much at home. It's 100% noninvasive to the mother. I guess this is what she's going to do even though she still wants it, she doesn't want her baby to be unwanted by the father so she's not keeping it. She'll come to my house sometimes this week to take the pill(s) so she'll have better support then doing it at home by herself. I'm still kind of hoping she'll chicken out but if not we (our really good third friend and myself) will just try to make her feel comfortable about her decision as possible. Hopefully I'll have a final update of when her baby shower will be instead of her not being pregnant anymore =/ we'll see
My friend isnt pregnant anymore and I dont know why Im so sad when it wasnt even my baby. This has really changed how I see her bf, she told him she wanted to keep it and he pretty much said tough luck and he paid for it. I do view my friend a little differently, Im sure after the thought of her Not being pregnant anymore sinks in things will go back to normal. Ugh so There it is