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TTC while on PA?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

My SIL and I were discussing babies recently. She's excited that we're having another baby, and mentioned her and her SO were thinking about having baby #6. If so, she'd have to get her IUD taken out first. I told her "That's nice" but kinda left it that. I wasn't super duper thrilled mostly because if they have ANOTHER baby, it's not like they can afford it. They're long term on food stamps and Medicaid. She even gets Christmas gifts from charity toy programs at the Holidays.

Should someone willfully TTC while on PA?

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 31, 2013 at 5:57 PM
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Maxi_Maxi
by Gold Member on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:06 PM
I sure hope nobody answers yes to this post. Ridiculous.
Maxi_Maxi
by Gold Member on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:07 PM
How can you determine it's temporary?


Quoting Isaacsmom913:

I'm no one to tell anyone when or how to increase their family size.  

With that said, if it were me-if I suddenly found myself in a position thiat we had to be on food stamps, WIC, Medicaid and the like my decision to TTC would be based upon the longevity of need for these programs.  If it were a temporary situation-less than a year, then maybe.  However if I were long term-over a year then no, it wouldn't be responsible for us to TTC under those circumstances.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:08 PM

Evidently some people would, especially since people like my SIL have no qualms about it.

There was someone in my last DDG who even admitted to being on PA and TTC the baby she was pregnant with at the time. So obviously, it's more common than we realize.


Quoting Maxi_Maxi:

I sure hope nobody answers yes to this post. Ridiculous.


 

Maxi_Maxi
by Gold Member on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:08 PM
How can you determine that it's temporary?


Quoting ashley1693:

I'm sure I'll be bashed but.

I'm ttc and were on food stamps. We've been trying for 7 YEARS for our first child. I refuse to stop trying just because we need some help right now. Were not always going to be on them and I don't want to never have a child just because we needed help for a little while.

elfling811
by Niki on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:08 PM
Agreed.


Quoting Anonymous:

I agree...that's why I didn't say anything negative to her. It's not my place to say anything bad since it's not my uterus, but in general, why add to the issue? I wouldn't.




Quoting elfling811:

No, but not my uterus, not my choice.



 


Isaacsmom913
by Platinum Member on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:09 PM


Please re-read.  Sigh.  For me, NO I would not TTC on FS or Medicaid if I had been on it for over a year.  However I am not going to tell someone that they can't.

Better questions--are they both working?  Is it that they can't afford medical insurance even if offered by their employer?  Do they use their food stamps appropriately?  Are they on cash assistance?  There are often more pieces to the puzzle than we see on the surface.

Quoting Anonymous:

Temporary situations are just that, temporary...but as long as I've known my SIL (DH and I have been together 7 years), she's been on FS and Medicaid.

Quoting Isaacsmom913:

I'm no one to tell anyone when or how to increase their family size.  

With that said, if it were me-if I suddenly found myself in a position thiat we had to be on food stamps, WIC, Medicaid and the like my decision to TTC would be based upon the longevity of need for these programs.  If it were a temporary situation-less than a year, then maybe.  However if I were long term-over a year then no, it wouldn't be responsible for us to TTC under those circumstances.





Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:10 PM
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No, if you can't afford to care for yourself then you have no business having kids....
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:12 PM
I get ssi medicaid and food stamps and I'm never getting off them . so bash away
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:12 PM
1 mom liked this
It's their choice, it's called mind your bussiness. Worry about your problems and less about others.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 31, 2013 at 6:13 PM

I don't need to re-read. I read your response the first time just fine. That's why I was telling you about my SIL's situation.

SIL doesn't work. Her SO works and he doesn't WANT her to work, plus their youngest is 13 months. His job doesn't offer medical insurance. They use food stamps on themselves (not giving them away, selling them, etc), but my SIL only ever buys processed junk...but at the end of the day, hey at least the kids are fed, right? No cash assistance, but they do also go to the food bank (which doesn't bother me but I swear the food bank ONLY gives cakes, cookies, pies, cupcakes, and a few bags of potatoes).


Quoting Isaacsmom913:

 

Please re-read.  Sigh.  For me, NO I would not TTC on FS or Medicaid if I had been on it for over a year.  However I am not going to tell someone that they can't.

Better questions--are they both working?  Is it that they can't afford medical insurance even if offered by their employer?  Do they use their food stamps appropriately?  Are they on cash assistance?  There are often more pieces to the puzzle than we see on the surface.

Quoting Anonymous:

Temporary situations are just that, temporary...but as long as I've known my SIL (DH and I have been together 7 years), she's been on FS and Medicaid.

Quoting Isaacsmom913:

I'm no one to tell anyone when or how to increase their family size.  

With that said, if it were me-if I suddenly found myself in a position thiat we had to be on food stamps, WIC, Medicaid and the like my decision to TTC would be based upon the longevity of need for these programs.  If it were a temporary situation-less than a year, then maybe.  However if I were long term-over a year then no, it wouldn't be responsible for us to TTC under those circumstances.

 

 

 

 


 

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