Introducing your girlfriend/boyfriend to your children - Yes or No?
I have a wonderful person in my life. I am 35 he is 44. We have known each other and been together as friends (and more) for 10 years. We have always been there to help each other through tough times.
We both have children. He has 4 (12, 16, 19, & 21) and I have 3 (12, 14, & 15). My kids do not know about him and his kids do not know about me. We feel that this is the best way because we don't want our children having animosity towards us. We don't want our children to feel that we are taking time away from them to spend with someone else's kids.
When I am out picking up things for my daughter, I pick up things for his daughters as well and he picks up things for my sons.
We believe that the children and their feelings should always come first. We believe that you can have a relationship with someone without introducing them to your kid(s) right away. That does not mean that just because I have never met his kids i don't love them. We just don't want to make our children feel uncomfortable.
We have agreed that when we feel that all of our kids are old enough (preferebly when all of them are over 18) than that would be a perfect time for us to introduce ourselves to each other's children.
Do you think this is strange or unusual? Would you introduce your children to your girlfriend or boyfriend right away or would you wait? And how long?