Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

whats the point in calling the police??? ***BIG UPDATE***

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
  • 64 Replies

I know this girl  (lets call her Jane )through my best friend because Jane's husband and my best friends husband are good friends.

 We thought Jane had an alcohol problem just bc she didn't know when to stop. Turns out the only reason she drinks so much is because her husband beats her, and it's a pain management for her. Since finding out my best friend has helped her as much as she can.  Jane was working and was laid off so she finally got another job last month. Her husbane knows we all know, and he DOESN'T CARE. Jane has called the police several times. Once my best friend showed up there not knowing what was going on since her and Jane had made plans. When my friend got there Jane's husband was beating the hell out of her. My friend ran outside and called the police. The police even had her make a video statement both my best friend and Jane. Well supposedly Jane and her husband have agreed that it won't work being married and they need to separate/ divorce. They have a business together so they figure to give it a month to get things straight with that. Thats been 2 wks ago they decided to make that call ... and my best friend just text me that she's on her way to Jane's house. Jane called her crying because her husband just beat the hell out of her. She called the police ( for like the 15th time in the last few months) and they took him but let him go. They never do anything to him! She has obvious signs of battering and she calls the police but they either make him leave or takes him and lets him go without charging/ booking. WHAT THE HELL!?

She's supposed to be getting a restraining order but idk how long that takes and she has pictures but apparently someone from the police department told her it would help if he had a arrest due to the DV... she's called.. they just don't do shit!  


I'm usually PRO police I don't bash them because hell I work with them daily... but for the life of me I don't understand this.... 


( if anyone figures out who I am some chance please keep it to yourself...)



ETA: MY BEST FRIENDS HUSBAND NO LONGER TALKS TO JANE'S HUSBAND. IT TOOK A WHILE FOR HIM TO REALIZE THAT HIS BEST FRIEND WASN'T THE MAN HE'S KNOWN FOR YEARS. HER HUSBAND TOLD MY BEST FRIEND TO NOT EVEN ANSWER THE PHONE FOR EITHER ONE BUT MY BEST FRIEND CAN'T DO THAT INCASE IT'S A CALL FOR HELP... he's tried to talk to him and figure out what the hell but apparently the guy sees NOTHING WRONG with what he's doing to his wife.... sickning!




9/4


Jane's husband went by Monday and said he was taking the kids somewhere... Jane doesn't want him taking the kids so she said we either all go as a family or you don't go .. well he got pissed and said they would take the other car since she wouldn't get out. When they went to the other car he pushed her on the wall, then on the ground and twisted her arm until she let go of the keys. She called the cops again. She gave them his plate number. They had him pulled over quickly. They escorted him to the PD and questioned him, then they QUESTIONED THE 10 AND 6YR OLD... the 10 yr old said no my dad didn't do it she fell... well they took the 10yr olds word and let him go. When my friend got there Jane was upset because the cop was leaving and told her they let him go bc of her 10yr old's answer. After several hours she called to find out where the kids were and they needed to come home for school in the morning. She told him he could go wherever but she wanted the kids home. At first he was then he said no, we're staying at a hotel.... after a few hours my friend left their house and came home. Tueday around lunch My friend's husband calls her and says JANE is in jail. He doesn't know the charges but she's in Jail. They talk to the husband and apparently Jane snapped...  according to Jane's husband........

She found out the name of the hotel from her 10 yr old and called every one in the area until she found it. When they gave her the room number she drove there and broke the window with a Machete (sp?) she apparently swung it around a few times her husband got it away from her and bent it so she couldn't use it.  He called the cops, somehow the kids didn't wake up. The 10 yr old did and yelled to let his mom up bc he was on top of her. He let her up and she was just in tears.... she hugged the kids and then the cops showed up. They arrested her and have her with Aggrevated Assault. she's still in jail.


She's royally fucked herself now, bc with a charge like that he will get the kids more than likely. He told my friend he will get her out but only once he has a restraining order for him and protective custody of the kids... so basically he will pay to get her out but he won't be able to be around her.. which is good... 


As far as his charges go from months ago.. yea they are stil PENDING..... SHe didn't drop them he threatened her so she tried to but the PD said with the evidence they had on him, they couldn't drop the charges.... 

Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:49 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:49 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:49 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:50 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:50 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:56 PM
What I get to deal with too. I got pushed out of a moving car the one time they charged him and he got community service and I got a cps case. He didn't do his community service during the six months they gave him so they gave him an extension. Now you know why some women give up or don't call.
KiKi-Love
by on Sep. 2, 2013 at 7:59 PM
I'm not surprised. The police is often worthless when it comes to sensitive occurrences as domestic.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 2, 2013 at 8:00 PM

she's actively trying to leave... she can't just up and leave bc they have a 9 and 7 yr old... but seriously I mean they won't charge him. With the video statement they had him leave and she thought they would charge him but they didn't.... 


it's just bull shit! sorry they didnt' follow through on you either... :( 

Quoting Anonymous:

What I get to deal with too. I got pushed out of a moving car the one time they charged him and he got community service and I got a cps case. He didn't do his community service during the six months they gave him so they gave him an extension. Now you know why some women give up or don't call.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 2, 2013 at 8:02 PM

I know not all are this way... but they have the motto "to protect and serve" but who are they protecting in this case? certainly not her... I can understand not doing much if there isn't any signs of battering, but she's had a red neck from him trying to strangle her during it, black eyes, huge red marks on her from his beating her... its just obvious :( 

Quoting KiKi-Love:

I'm not surprised. The police is often worthless when it comes to sensitive occurrences as domestic.


KiKi-Love
by on Sep. 2, 2013 at 8:08 PM
Why doesn't she moves away or leaves to a woman's shelter? The woman needs to get away from her abuser. Unless she doesn't value get life. She's a big girl now.

I'm not a firm believer in our justice system. It's just a headache.


Quoting Anonymous:

I know not all are this way... but they have the motto "to protect and serve" but who are they protecting in this case? certainly not her... I can understand not doing much if there isn't any signs of battering, but she's had a red neck from him trying to strangle her during it, black eyes, huge red marks on her from his beating her... its just obvious :( 

Quoting KiKi-Love:

I'm not surprised. The police is often worthless when it comes to sensitive occurrences as domestic.


JanineDeer
by Janine on Sep. 2, 2013 at 8:10 PM

well one day she should just SNAP on him.  She might even do any time...self defense you know??

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)