A friend who has 2 extremely well-behaved children 4 and 5 yr old told me that "swats" or "pops" are no good. She said if you're going to spank, spank like you mean it. She said the only way was to bend them over your knee, pants down, 4 or 5 hits, and then hug them, tell them you love them, and have them apologize for their wrong doing.
Would you agree with this? Just curious