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FYI Breastfeeding Does NOT Make You An Expert!!!!!

Anonymous
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Why do some of you (please note  said some) that breastfeed & push breastfeeding think you know it all?

I coud NOT breastfeed, I did NOT produce enough milk.  My body failed me.

I tried for months, 2 drs (that yup were huge breastfeeding advocates), 2 lactation specialists, a nutritionist, my own research & many breastfeeders giving their advice as well, I just did not produce enough.

Yet some of you want to sit here & say "nope not true no such thing" like you know everything just bc you breastfeed or did.  Or some want to bash away at me & tell me how lazy I am & how horrible of a mother I am.

Heck some have even made fun of my body failing me.

I see so many bash other's on here who couldn't breastfeed.  FYI just bc you breastfeed & just bc some Drs are idiots doesn't mean some of you are the know it alls & you know everything about breastfeeding & issues some of us have had.

Honestly it is hard enough knowing your failed your child, knowing you couldn't provide for your child like you are suppose to.

Ever think that it was extremely hard for us & that bashing us doesn't help or making anything easier? Or by telling us how wrong we are that we could've produced enough milk had you just tried that it makes us question everything we did? 

When your child is not gaining weight & constantly screaming out of hunger it is a horrible feeling to know it is your fault.  Why do some of you breastfeeders feel the need to add salt to the wounds?

Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 3, 2013 at 3:56 PM
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RoryPond
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:01 PM
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They only make you feel bad if you let them you didn't "fail" your child if you selected a different feeding method before your kid died of starvation and now have a happy healthy baby. I hate posts like these, making it like having to switch to formula is some epic fail.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:05 PM
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 I am still working on not feeling like I failed my child.

When your body doesn't work properly & so many continue to tell you how wrong you are & that there is no such thing as not being able to produce enough milk it does tend to make you feel horrible, especially when you already feel horrible enough.

I am working on it, this isn't something that happened years ago. 

Just like women who can't get pregnant feel like failures & struggle w/emotional issues bc of it, when your body fails you it is not an easy thing to get over.


Quoting RoryPond:

They only make you feel bad if you let them you didn't "fail" your child if you selected a different feeding method before your kid died of starvation and now have a happy healthy baby. I hate posts like these, making it like having to switch to formula is some epic fail.


 

BambiF
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:06 PM

Did you try domperidone?

SRUsarahSC
by Platinum Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:07 PM
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Unless you nurse until they move out, for some women, you are a failure. Their issue, not yours.  I beat myself up over the same thing, I had to supplement one bottle at night at five months due to low supply and nothing we tried helped.  Amazingly, the child is still alive!

RoryPond
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:08 PM
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Seriously? Don't compare a lack of breastmilk with an inability to conceive!! Give your kid a bottle, and get over yourself it's not that big of a deal.


Quoting Anonymous:

 I am still working on not feeling like I failed my child.


When your body doesn't work properly & so many continue to tell you how wrong you are & that there is no such thing as not being able to produce enough milk it does tend to make you feel horrible, especially when you already feel horrible enough.


I am working on it, this isn't something that happened years ago. 


Just like women who can't get pregnant feel like failures & struggle w/emotional issues bc of it, when your body fails you it is not an easy thing to get over.




Quoting RoryPond:

They only make you feel bad if you let them you didn't "fail" your child if you selected a different feeding method before your kid died of starvation and now have a happy healthy baby. I hate posts like these, making it like having to switch to formula is some epic fail.



 


TheDoctorsWife
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:08 PM
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Listen lady, you did NOT fail your child!
Ladywithtwo
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:11 PM
It is rare that women truly can't breastfeed. It certainly does happen. It would be hard to try & not be able to :(

Don't let others make you feel bad about yourself.
chalisa0
by Ruby Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:11 PM
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I would never make fun of someone who couldn't breastfeed.  It would be tragic and sad-for both mom and the baby.  It's the ones who say stupid stuff like "breastfeeding just wasn't for me."  No kidding-it's for the baby.  They're pretty easy to make fun of.  But, I'm sorry you couldn't with this baby.  (Just remember for the future that every baby, pregnancy, birth and bf experience is different-and next time might be better.)  The real thing that matters is that your baby is healthy.  Don't worry about the rest.

LadyVoldemort
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:14 PM
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I didn't even try and I don't give a damn at what the sanctis think
pinkiebabii
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 4:14 PM
Did you use donor milk? Did you use an sns?
What did you doctors suggest? How did you determine you couldn't produce?
When did your child completely stop producing wet or dirty diapers?
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