Final update!: A kid cut my dds hair at school today UPDATE with pic pg 6.
After school yesterday I took my dd to a salon and had her hair cut. The stylist had to cut 10 inches off of her hair to even it out with what the girl cut. With the curly, wavy texture of her hair, the shorter cut just doesn't look very good. It springs up now that the weight is gone and looks much shorter than it is, and just generally doesn't suit her like the long hair did. But my dd seems ok with it and that's what matters. Her hair hasn't been this short since she was two, so that was about 4 years worth of hair growth :(
I also had my conference with the teacher this afternoon. Apparently she was just as upset as I was. She was very apologetic, and even cried about it. She said she hasn't been able to sleep since it happened because she felt so bad about it. She took all the scissors away and put them up. The girl who cut my dds hair has been in trouble again since this happened and might be facing expulsion. She has had recess taken away for two weeks and is required to stay by the teachers side the entire day. I have no idea what her second offense was (not really my business) but it must have been really bad? I feel a lot better knowing that something has been done to punish the girl and the scissors have been removed. It also helped to know that her teacher actually cared that this happened. I was afraid I would get the "it's only hair" speech, so knowing that her teacher was almost as upset as I was took some of the sting out. My pain was validated.