Moms who have been raped or have experience in that department--ADVICE PLEASE!
Last weekend Dsd (not Kensley's mom but my other Dsd) was at her friends house and apparently her friends mom got all pilled out and passed out. From what I hear this boy came over and brought beer for all the kids and they all got drunk.
let me stop for a minute and add that she does not live with us. She lives with her mom and asked at the beginning of the year if she could move in with us. I told her yes but we are a lot stricter in this household and she would have to follow the rules. She never asked again.
back to the story...so this boy ended up raping her and she didnt want to tell anyone but her friend made her tell her mom. Her mom immediately took her to the hospital and they did the rape kit on her as well as everything else they do for rape victims. As of now the boy and her friends mother have been locked up and she's already getting threats from people at her school.
I told DH that maybe she should move in with us for a while because we are a whole county over and we can get her therapy and into a new school system. He said something about her having to stay at her grandmothers house for a month for a defacs thing or whatever.
she has told me some wild stories about things her and her friends do. I've told her that shit like that don't fly in this house...and I'm not about to have a bunch of teenagers coming and going out of my house either. She has personally called defacs on her own mom several times for different things. Once she said that her mom knew she was molested as a child and never did anything about it. Once because she was self mutilating...she's very troubled and in and out of therapy.
I'm wanting to help her but I'm also scared because I know she puts her mom through a hard time. I also have my other Dsd (kensley's mom) and my baby to worry about too. What would be your advice to me about this situation and what should I expect with the rape thing because I've never been raped nor knew anyone who was raped?