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is this legal? help please!

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Ok so my ds is 11 and is in the 5th grade. He has adhd. He was on medicine last year but he would never eat and got super skinny. His lowest weight on the medicine was like 39lbs. All summer I didn't make him take it and he had gained so much weight and is actually looking healthy. This school yeari decided not to give him his medicine for health reasons and the school has brought him home twice already and his principal told me if he didn't have it to just not bring him to school. Well if I do thathe will have al kinds of absences and I cant do that. So is the school right to tell me that? Is that even legal? They don't want to have to deal with him, they just want him all zombied out and I don't agree. So what can I do??
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:43 PM
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by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:53 PM
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No! I have 2 kids in my class this year that are off meds. Both sets of parents were concerned at conferences last week and I told them we are doing fine! Yes, there is energy, but that's ok! They aren't disruptive or bad and I would rather give them small accommodations than see them medicated. I do understand some kids really need it! I have one who can't focus without, but I would rather a child be unmedicated any day! I love to see their real little personalities! 

by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:53 PM
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No absolutely not.  A child dxed with ADHD has rights under the Ada and one of those rights is an education equal to every other student in the the district.  They have to make accommodations for him.

by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:53 PM
They can get in serious trouble for this!
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:54 PM
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Can the School Force You to Put Your Child on Medicine for ADHD?

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by Ruby Member on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:55 PM

Actually yes it is legal....if he's out of control while he's off his meds the school has every right to send him home

You need to talk to his doctor about the weight issues and see if he can be switched to a different medication.

by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:56 PM

Tell the Principal you need that in writing to help you get him into another clinic faster...Then you have his ass over a barrel. That is illegal for him to tell you that BS

by Anonymous 6 on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:56 PM
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It is but if they are bringing him home then clearly he is being disruptive. Teachers have to focus on all the kids it isn't fair if one kid received all the attention because he isn't behaved. They may decide to put him into a behavior class. Not all kids need meds but if he can't control himself without them then you need to figure something out. While they aren't suppose to bring him home they can keep him out of classso he isn't taking away from the other kids learning experience

Quoting Anonymous:

I have. We have switched medicines a few times and even had him on the lowest dose and he just never ate. He is not a bad kid and doesn't get in trouble a lot he is just hyper. But every parent with a child with adhd doesnt medicate. So its ok for them to just tell us not to bring him to school? I thought teachers job was to take care of kids while at school.

Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

 Have you brought your concerns to his doctor? Tried another med? Changed his diet?

Obviously he is causing some sort of disturbance to be sent home.

by The Dorkfish on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:56 PM
This. Its so very true.

Quoting MomOf3AngelBabe:

Oh hun. NO they dont have that right but expect that when you refuse, theyll call CPS on you for medical neglect. I know, I know. You dont even have to tell me how effed up that is. I already know. Can you move him to a school out of that district and not let them know anything about the meds?

by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:56 PM
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Why don't you try home educating him?

by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:57 PM

I don't think they can, that doesn't sound right.

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