He never even told his parents I'm pregnant. (UPDATE IN RED)
I'm sixteen weeks pregnant. I just found out the sex (supposedly, we'll get a clearer picture next visit but I'm hoping they're right about this little boy!) This entire pregnancy my, then boyfriend, had been trying to get me to get an abortion. He said that his parents had loaned him the money and supported his decision because we both didn't need a child together.
I never got the abortion. He got mad and stopped speaking to me. We didn't talk for about three weeks to a month until I told him I'd found out the sex. He threatened me that I'd be a single mother and it didn't make a difference what the sex was because I'm not supposed to be pregnant anyway.
He kept verbally attacking me. It was ridiculous. Even when I brushed it off with "okay." He'd actually call or text first to start an argument. I told him he could be done if he wanted to be done. I was sick of arguing and I didn't want to spend the next five months arguing. I also told him that just because he was a douche and shutting himself out doesn't mean that his family would have to be shut out too and I would tell them that they were welcome to call me anytime. Now this was when I though that they knew.
He freaked out. He NEVER even told his parents that I was pregnant. Even after I told my mom and he swore he understood what I was going through because his parents were disappointed. They don't even freaking know! I asked when he planned on telling them. He said he didn't want to tell them yet. Never gave a reason. At this point, he's cooled down and saying he wants to be there, but I don't understand how you're getting ready to bring a child into your life when your family and friends don't even know. Also, I think he did this because he didn't want me to let his family and friends know the way he's been talking to me and treating me It's bad. It's unbelievably "OMG, he's such a dick. How could he say that?" bad. He didn't just find out either. We found out over two months ago. He's been home several times. He talks to his Dad every single day. My issue is this.. when he's mad he blows up, says I'll be a single parent, and points out that he never has to do anything but pay child support if he doesn't want to. That's perfectly fine with me. What's not fine with me is him hiding the child from his whole family. That's an ENTIRE side of family that will have no idea.
However, I have his mother's number. I've had it for a while. At seven o'clock I want to call and tell them. He NEVER will. Is this the right idea?
UPDATE: I called the number that I had and UNFORTUNATELY it was his grandmother. I told her I wanted to speak to his parents (after she asked me how I was doing and had I grown any because I'm very petite lol). She got worried because I said I wanted to talk to his parents, even after I told him nothing was wrong and that I was okay and he was okay. So I told her. She seemed really happy (but she does not know that we're broken up clearly and I wasn't really trying to go into detail). His mother (who works for a radio station) was actually still at work so she gave me his Dad's number. I called him twice. He picked up the second time. I told him who I was and I the first thing I said was "I'm not here to tattle." One of the moms here put that in my head. I told him that I wanted them to have the option to be a part of the baby's life even if the father doesn't.
HIS DAD LOST HIS SHIT!! He immediately went on about never giving him any abortion money. What happened was he gave him RENT MONEY for the July month that he's paid back already. He gave him like $500, but it was NEVER for an abortion and he didn't support that. He said that he had never even brought it up and he was JUST home for Labor Day weekend. He told me that he would talk to his wife and if I ever needed anything to call because they didn't say anything that my ex boyfriend told me they said. Also, he was coming down this weekend for the first home game for my college (they are both alumni) and he wanted to sit down with both of us. So I'm freaking out cause his mom will be there as well. He somewhat was ready to get off the phone because he was about to call my ex. And I'm just waiting on that argument. smh. I still feel like I did the right thing. They WANT to be a part of it, which is exactly what I assumed. I never brought up anything that he's done wrong other than the abortion part that he lied about.