Edit*we talked and...She wants it back?? What do i do?
She put me in the spot and i sputtered out that I geuss I would. I was dumbfounded and shocked she even asked. Then she asked that I also bring over any other stuff I'm not using to contribute to her yard sale. WTF?!?i said that I was keeping my stuff for my own yard sale I was planning for this fall.
I'm not giving her back that bassinet, it belongs to me. But my question is, how do I tell her without seeming like a bitch.
She offered a playpen to trade for him to sleep in at my house, thing is, I've already bought him one.
Ok let me clarify first, she is pregnant again with a baby that is not related to me, she is not my sister, she's my brothers gf.
I will be babysitting this new baby during the time frame between its birth and the time she goes back to jail and the state takes it away. Which hopefully won't be long. IF she is arrested before its birth then obviously It won't be my problem. IF she isn't, then I will be keeping it only bc I couldn't sleep knowing an innocent baby might be in danger or be being neglected by a junkie she picked out to watch it.
As far as the bassinet goes, it was GIVEN to me as payment for all the "free" babysitting I did. She was working but lost her job for skipping work, (which is how she is pregnant now.)
I provided everything he needed bc she would not have. Simply put, she bought weed and clothes and a new phone the same week I bought her sons formula and diapers. I didnt do it so she didnt have to, I did if bc she wouldn't have, even when she had the money.
Fast forward, we talked yesterday and again today. She agreed with me about needing the bassinet for the new baby and said keeping it was the smartest thing to do, and also admitted it belonged to me, but thought id give it back bc she was in a bind. Lmao, no way. Our relationship is fine, although of course strained bc she neglects her son. I love him unconditionally and will always provide what he needs, bc I know she won't.
She will always come to me with his needs and I know she's using me, but at the end of the day,
As long as he has what he needs then I'm willing to be a doormat. Only for him. It won't last forever and soon enough I can make it all better for him forever.