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Disrespectful, not take your husband's last name?

Posted by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:49 PM
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I was reading my Facebook and someone asked in their status if it's disrespectful not to take your husband last name. So I decide to ask my fellow cafemoms what your opinion is about it.

by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:49 PM
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Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:50 PM
No, I don't find it disrespectful. I would use both last names if I we're to get married tho.
vegaswife2011
by Emerald Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:50 PM
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I didn't. I have the sane last name as my girls. 

SaratheV
by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:50 PM
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When I was engaged I made it very clear that I wouldn't be changing my last name.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:50 PM

I don't care what another woman does with her name when she gets married.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:51 PM
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SO and I are not married yet, but we have already decided that when we do get married he will take my last name.

So, obviously we don't see it as disrespectful. SO's family might..oh well.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:54 PM
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I just don't see the point in getting married if you're not gonna share a team name.
Pink.Sunshine.
by on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:55 PM
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no it's not. I wish I wouldn't have.

Foolynroo2
by Ruby Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:56 PM

Eh, it wasn't a priority to me, but once DH finally declared it was important to him I did.

He didn't feel disrespected, he just wanted me to be Mrs...


nanasue31204
by Silver Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:56 PM
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I personally would find it disrespectful to my husband if I didn't take his name. I'm very traditional in my views though. It doesn't bother me one way on another for other people, just do what's right for that relationship
Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Sep. 5, 2013 at 7:58 PM
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No, I don't think it is disrespectful.  Everyone has their reasons.  I had a realtor once who didn't change her name.  She'd already established a reputation and clientelle with her maiden name, and switching would have been terrible for her business.

My friend was an only child, a daughter at that.  Her DH not only agreed she keep her name, but that she give one of the children her maiden name to carry it on.  Her father was certainly pleased with the decision.

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