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It says "rsvp to ..." for a reason! Update!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

My sister and best friend are throwing me a baby shower. It was SUPPOSED to be a suprise...but apparently people in the south are total dumbasses. The invitation said it was a SURPRISE baby shower and to RSVP to my sister or my best friend by a certain date. Well my cousin told me she's coming to my shower. I said what shower? She said your baby shower, I lost the invite so I don't know the phone number. Oh. Well I didn't know I was even having a shower. 

So the secret got out and I know. No big deal I am so excited and thankful, I'm just a little bummed I didn't get a suprise lol that would of been fun. Now, the day before the shower, I've had 6 people message me all within an hour saying "hey I'll be there tomorrow, forgot to RSVP". They KNOW the people throwing the shower, they have them on FB and most have their phone #'s. Why is telling the hostess of a party so difficult? I RSVP the second I get an invite and mark it on my calender, IF I can go. 


So do you guys RSVP or not?

Holy Crap, this made front page! Wooooo! lol 

Update: Shower was yesterday. We had an amazing turnout, and the shower was perfect. My hostesses busted butt and made it the best thing in the world. As far as RSVP's the cousin that first ruined the surprise didn't even show up, two people who didn't RSVP came and they bought guests who weren't invited (two people I've never seen in my life). Only one person who did RSVP didn't come but I totally understand her reason. The shower was just fantastic and we had a lot of fun and got a lot of awesome things for our lil man. 

Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 6, 2013 at 1:45 PM
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by Platinum Member on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:07 PM

You just reminded me to rsvp for my friends wedding.  Thanks haha.


by on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:07 PM

Ugh! Some people.

I agree with you entirely. And I'll add that even if you arent attending, you RSVP with your regret that you cant attend. Some people just dont get it for whatever reason. SMH.

Enjoy your not-so-surprise shower!! ;) Congrats on the munchkin! 

by Ruby Member on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:08 PM

I always RSVP, it's kind of a jerk thing to just show up when they're not expecting you. It's common courtesy to let them know you're coming, IMO.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:08 PM

Thanks, I try to make them a fun event...not sure what we're doing this year since the baby is due 2 weeks before their birthday (boy won't that be a fun time of year....)

That lady seems to have a few screws loose somewhere. On the note of no gift my other best friend (not the one hosting) said she "might be coming but won't have a gift". Gee, thanks.

Quoting ballerina18:

Oh my goodness. I don't see how hard it is to RSVP. Your party ideas sound fun at least =)

Yeah, I was annoyed at dd's party. Since my dd has a summer birthday we had to mail out invitations and I spent $20 on stamps alone, plus the cost of save the dates/invitations so I was VERY annoyed that I had to call ppl after spending about $45 just to invite ppl. We also did a picnic lunch for her party too so we needed to know how much food to get. Thank goodness we had enough!

Random, but there was even a woman who showed up to drop her son off at dd's party and she made the comment "Oh, is this a Birthday party? I thought it was just a summer get together. Sorry we didn't bring a present."  I wasn't annoyed that they didn't bring dd a gift, but for the woman to not know it was a b-day party when I spent time sending out invitations/save the dates saying it was a b-day party.....really lady?


Oh well, all in all dd had fun and that's what matters. Next year we will do something different though. Maybe just take her to see family or travel somewhere.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have to do this with every birthday party we have. It's irritating so I stopped sending invites to most people and only invite people I KNOW will show up. Last year we only had about 6 RSVP's and I planned for about 10-12 adults and kids including my own and DH and I. I kid you not we had FORTY people show. It was a madhouse and DH had to run out and get more food and plates, thank goodness the store is right down the street.

On another note, the year before the party was at Chuck E Cheese. We had about 20 kids that RSVP'd...only 5 showed up. Saved us money since they charge by the kid after a certain number but it was embarassing for me and disappointing for my kids. 

Quoting ballerina18:

I always RSVP. I think it's rude/inconsiderate not to RSVP.

For my dd's 6th b-day party I sent out save the dates 4 weeks in advance and invitations saying to rsvp 2 weeks in advance. I only had 3 ppl who rsvp'd right away. I ended up callign everyone else like 2 or 3 days before the party to see if they were coming. =/ uggh

by on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:09 PM

 I don't understand why it's so hard for people to RSVP to an event.  My dh and I have an Octoberfest every year and I ask on the invitations to RSVP by a certain day so my dh knows how much food to prepare for the party.  Nothing like making food for 10 people and 30 show up and vice versa. 

by on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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Well nice to know i am a dumbass from being from the south.

by on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:10 PM

oh my god, don't get me started on RSVP'ing. I was missing 120 rsvp's the WEEK of my wedding! it's ridiculous. my bridal shower.... NO ONE rsvp'ed my mother in law. it's said regrets only. so she assumed people were coming. 6 friends showed up. I think she had food for like 15! more sangria for me. 

my baby shower... only like 3 people RSVP'ed to my friend throwing it. and she's from out of state... so she really had no idea what to expect. 

people are rude. it's like they think magically you know how many people to account for for food. 

by on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:12 PM

you'd drive me nuts if you were my friend... but at least you can admit it! :) I do have friends I know they never will and can 90% of the time know if they're coming or not. so i'd just lump you in with them. haha

Quoting Anonymous:

No, I am pretty much a fail at this stuff. I have good intentions but terrible follow through.

by on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:13 PM
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 how can you say other people are rude for not doing something you don't do?  you are supposed to respond either way. 

sorry your suprise was ruined.  have a great shower.

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you!

If we can't attend the party we do not RSVP, since most people around here only RSVP if they are coming (or just show up anyway)


Quoting Anonymous:

That's a bummer that you didn't get your surprise shower! I normally RSVP... but sometimes I admit if I'm not going to an event I don't. Congratulations! And I hope you have a lovely time at your shower!




by Emerald Member on Sep. 6, 2013 at 2:14 PM

I try to. Even if it is just a quick short note on their (host/hostess) FB page or email. 

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