I don't want a dog -- or ANY pet at this stage in my life. I don't want the responsibility, I don't want the added mouth to feed. I just don't want it. I don't HATE animals. I don't harm them or wish any ill will towards them; nor do I have any negative or positive opinion of people who DO have animals.
My boyfriend moved in with me approximately 9-10 months ago. After he moved in, a month or so later, his brother (who is Army) found out he was being stationed in Germany. His brother and SIL had two dogs - a giant one (I don't remember the breed) and a mini pinn (sp?. The SIL was supposed to arrange for the dogs transport to Germany.
The story I was told (and supposedly my boyfriend was also told this same story)was that SIL is such a idiot that when she found out how much it cost to ship the dogs, she cancelled their (the dogs) flights and there are only so many animal transportation flights to Germany that it was just 'impossible' to reschedule. She cancelled even though they had the money to ship them.
My BF brother asked him to take the dogs. I automatically said NO to the giant dog (because once when I was left in the room alone with the giant dog, he growled at me and it scared me so No. I have two children who was way smaller than that dog. Just no) and he took that to mean that I was indifferent about the smaller dog. I told him I'd THINK about it but that I really didn't want a dog in my house, I didn't want the responsibility (something I've been upfront about the WHOLE TIME).
We never got a chance to talk about it again because next thing I know, he brings her (the dog) to our house and now we have her. The conditions were that we would somehow get the dog to BFs mom in Maine (from Texas) and SHE would take care of the dog.
I found out I was pregnant, we moved from Texas to Kansas to be near my family. I told BF to contact his brother and tell him that we'll SHIP the dog to him, he needs to send the money. He's already got two new dogs so I'm sure he isn't worried about this one. He told us that we COULDN'T ship the dog to Germany because she needed to be spayed and she isn't (and they don't want to spay her because she's purebred).
I thought, so wait, how were they going to ship the dog in the first place if she had to be spayed first??? I'm thinking his brother LIED to BF but he just won't believe it. And now I'm about to have this baby and I just don't want the dog. I told BF that I don't want the responsibility of taking care of her when he isn't there. He told me that SOMEONE has to take care of her. Apparently it's going to have to be ME -- even though I plan on going back to work a few months after the baby is born so who will watch the dog then?
I'm so angry. His brother will send messages like, "don't forget, she's still my dog" -- even though he pays for NOTHING for the dog (he was supposed to send money to BFs mom for watching the dog but hasn't offered us ANYTHING -- and BFs mom doesn't WANT the dog either). He pays for NOTHING for the dog - we had to pay a pet deposit for this dog to rent a place and he hasn't offered to repay that. I've had to buy food for the dog that I didn't want to because obviously she has to eat. I'm not cruel or mean to her. I just don't want her -- and besides that, we really just cannot AFFORD her.
I'm just so angry about it and I don't know what to do. It's making me resentful of my BF and every time I bring it up, it's a fight. Opinions? Advice?