So now we are expected to use some of our inheritance to help get her off drugs?
Question: Do you think I am wrong?
Total Votes: 150
Back story, I have 2 sisters and our father recently passed away. Now, we were not very close with him, he was an alcoholic, drug addict and had been abusive to our mom while they were married and we saw it, he also never made us a priority growing up so we only saw him a couple times a year. But me and my older sister made amends with him before he died, he was even at my wedding 2 years ago. I have gotten to the point where I don't excuse how he was but I have forgiven him and that was mostly for myself.
My younger sister however, can't stand him. She is JUST like him. She is 23 (ages 3 and 1) and has 2 kids, both of them were born addicted to methadone and she has gone back and fourth between meth and methadone for the past 4 years. Currently, her and her SO (father of both kids) live in a car my older sister is raising her son (the older child) who because of the drugs has special needs and her younger child lives between my home and my mom's, she is also special needs. She accused my dad of raping her at 12 (which he didn't she was with me and my other sister the whole time, none of us were ever alone at his house simply because we all shared a room there and of course we were all there). She was taken to the doctor where absolutly no evideance of any kind of sexual acivity was found, not even molestation. She has also accused 2 other people of raping her who I seriously doubt actually did and she has acused her boyfriend's mother (who was letting them live with her when she was pregnant with the second child) of molesting her son. She was a problem teen, even child from the time she was about 10.She had her first abortion at 14 and ran away at least 5 times while she was a teen.
Me and my older sister got an inheritance from our father though he didn't leave anything to the younger sister because she has nothing to do with him and still tries to tell people that he raped her. He left each of use $150,000 which was basically all he had with the exception of his house (which went to his current wife) and a smaller amount for my mom, in his will he said he wanted to make up for all the child support her never paid. She was very happy about it and used it to finish paying off her home.
Well my grandma asked me and my older sister over for lunch. This is my mom's mom so she has nothing to do with the money we got, but she did know about it. She said that she thinks we should help our sister by renting her an apartment for a year for her and her boyfriend to get back on their feet, all while the rest of the family keeps raising their kids.
My sister has been given so much help already, by family and the government. Up until February, her SO worked while she stayed at home, they got over $500 a month in foodstamps (which they are still getting despite the fact that the kids aren't with them), WIC, medicaid for her and the two kids, and she was got free daycare until they found out that she wasn't actually working. On top of that, everthing their kids have have been bought by other people. Either hand me downs or just bought for them and half the time, they would sell the stuff people bought for their kids for drug, alochol or cigarrete money. But with all of that help, look at where they are.
Yes, getting them a place for a year would keep them off the streets but only for a year, next year she will be 24 and living on the street. I just think they need to be on their own until they decide to get off the asses and fix their lives, in the meantime we will take care of the kids so they aren't suffering.When I told my grandma this and my sister agreed, she said we were just being selfish. Grandma has always treated her better because she felt everyone else was unfairly mean to her but that's because she was always doing things wrong.