I'm a SAHM/WAHM with a total of 5 children and 1 on the way. My children are 13 (my step son who I have sole custody of), 9, 7, 6 (daughters), 15 months (son) and I'm 33 weeks pregnant with a little girl. My 7 year old has special needs so I would say her and my 15 month old take up the majority of my time. Fortuantely the others are fairly independent in most areas.
Finding out I was pregnant with my daughter was a complete shock. I got a tubal after my youngest so I thought I was done. I've been having a hard time this entire pregnancy just handling (emotionally) the idea that there was going to be another one soon.
I recently decided I really have to try to get more "me" time. My DH works M-F. He leaves the house around 6:30-7am and gets home anywhere from 6-8pm. He has weekends off. I spoke to him about me needing some time for me. The problem is, he's not comfortable with all of the children by himself. I don't blame him. The 4 oldest are my ex husband's children. 3 are biologically mine and one is legally mine. So I decided to try to compromise with him.
As is the case with most SAHM's, I don't sleep much. I'm up a 6am and usually don't go to sleep until midnight. I do all of the cooking and cleaning (though sometimes DH does the dinner dishes for me). I do the bedtime routines and rituals. Well, by the end of the night, I'm exhausted. So I asked him to compromise with me.
I asked if Sundays could be my day to relax. He can sleep in Saturday like he usually does, but he gets up with the kids on Sunday. He gets them fed and the little one dressed. Then, even if I'm awake he is in charge of making sure chores get done, lunch is eaten etc. I'll still be there for support if there is an issue, but I want Sunday to be my lazy day. He agreed to it under the condition that I still cook our Sunday dinner (he's a horrible cook). That was no problem for me because really, I just want at least half the day. I have no problem cooking.
So here is my question to the SAHM's. Do you have an arrangement like this with you DH/SO? How does it work out for you?
Sorry so long lol