She's having a boy and I have SO much stuff I can give her. I have bins of stuff from preemie sizes up until 18 months. My oldest is 3 so this stuff isn't old by any means--and as you can imagine some stuff was only worn once or not at all.
Well I was talking to her on the phone the other day and told her about all the stuff. I told her I'd bring it along with the gift at the baby shower. She told me "oh no no, that's ok. I'm not doing hand me downs" i was confused so I told her that they would all be washed before I have them to her. She just told me to keep them because she doesn't want anything used. What she was saying was very clear by then.
It made me angry and look at her in a new light. I don't want to even attend her shower anymore and every time I go try to pick up an outfit for her baby I just put it back because I think of how she might not like it and not appreciate it.